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Uh oh...The Countdown Begins
I got up anxious this morning because at the end of the week I have to return from Mexico, where I plan to retire, to my workplace in the USA, where I have 2 years more to go before retiring.
It's not just about going back to work, it's about going back to work at a school that's having such trouble with dwindling enrollment that it's making ends meet by asking older teachers to retire. Then it doesn't replace those positions and can save some money. I wish I could retire now, of course, but under Social Security rules and my state pension rules both I can't take early retirement until I'm 62.
It's a logical financial workplace situation, it's not personal. But still, it's not morale boosting to have your bosses be eager to get rid of you. My best friend who was a director in the nursing program had a great long career at my school until a couple of years ago. Then when enrollment caused cost cutting, they took her secretary away, they took her office away, she was stripped of everything except the bare bones of her teaching job. By the time she retired this past year you would never have known she'd been an important leader for years in our school's nursing program.
I'm not even a director, I'm just an instructor, so I'm at the bare bones of my job already. What's going on with me is that I'm seeing my boss make plans with younger teachers as to how they're going to go on without me. They're changing the courses I teach already so someone with my hospital experience isn't needed to teach them. It kind of hurts. It's tough to see that before you're even gone, but those are the breaks at a school that's losing enrollment.
So today the countdown begins to when I return to work at the end of this week to that. Like I said, it's not a negative work atmosphere directed at anyone personally, it's just the financial facts. But it does make a negative cloud sort of hang over the place. No one likes to go to work every day knowing they're disposable.
It's been nice to be out from under that cloud here in Mexico for the summer. It's been a time of seeing the light at the end of the tunnel for me when I do finally get to retire here in 2 years. My bosses will be happy to save money by not replacing me then, and I'll be happy to know I'm no longer a burden to them.
Help me, if you can, with support here for keeping up my self esteem as I go back to this situation that's not inherently self-esteem building. All of us with PTSD, especially those of us with it from childhood, have to work regularly at maintenance of our self esteem. This situation challenges that for me, so your support would be welcome. Thanks.
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Hey All...I hope that you have a lovely, peaceful beginning of your weekI have a bunch of chores that need doing but may put them off til tomorrow and just hang out with my landlord/roomie todayWhat about you?...Anything special going on?Have a great day and take good care of you!!..Xo
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Once again I've had a fever today. I'm not going to the hospital because that's a huge waste of time but I did schedule a dr appointment for Wednesday afternoon.

May I suggest to you, that the boost to self esteem isnt in the job, but in the result you have on your students. If you are feeling bad about yourself when you return due to the situation, look at every face in your class room and everyday at least one face will give you the boost you need. When you see maybe one of them really enjoying it, or beginning to understand and crasp a long hard fought understanding of some aspect. For me, its in the moments when one of the IVF patients finally becomes pregnant and then even more so when those pregnancies are successful and a new life arrives. Our self esteem, muji, its in the young ones~ the children, the students, the young at heart. Again, triple hugs friend~
The worst that can happen would be that my bosses would log on and see that I'd talked about them. That's why I tried to be fair in what I said about them behind their backs here, because I'd have to back it up to their faces, too.
Y'all get it, though, that hospitals and colleges can be places where some of the smartest go to work, But that running the business of the place can be no smarter than anywhere else.
I'm trying to read books on retiring and facing becoming obsolete at work while looking forward to the third phase of life, retirement. It's going to happen to us all, right? It makes a big difference, though, that I've got y'all to tell me I'm truly not alone. You've gone through stuff like this at work, too.
Your advice is right on. It's not smart just to look to bosses' "attaboys" for my self esteem. Look to the people served, in hospitals the patients, at my school the students.
I got a really nice note from a student at the end of the year this year. Taking your advice here I'm gonna print that note off and scotch tape it to my fridge door when I get back home from Mexico Sunday. That way I can be reminded to follow your advice every day.
Thanks, everybody!
It's just that mine's being erased before I'm out the door, literally.
My boss and this year's new psych instructor met to rewrite the college catalog description of the death and dying course I teach. They rewrote it to eliminate any mention of religion, since I taught it as a hospital chaplain and I'd no longer be there. I get it.
It would have been nice to be told since we have 2 years to go as coworkers, though. When I took over teaching those death and dying classes, I went and talked about those courses to the instructor who taught them before me who retired. Just as a courtesy; that's just me, I know.
I'm not a "don't let the door hit your in the rear" kind of coworker toward my workplace colleagues when they leave, but there's no reason not to be, either, I understand.
I interviewed as a finalist on the academic job market every year for the last 10 years. I like your business contract by contract marketplace much more. It's much more flexible, and ours is rigid.
That's why it's not been my experience that the academic job market has recognized the benefits of hiring older more experienced employees like you've seen happen in your more open business market. That's because of the unique outdated presence of tenure in the academic market.
In hiring older academic employees we come having run the course of the tenure track. I've run the gamut twice, once for 7 years and once for 5.
In almost all full time long term positions in the USA you have no choice about whether to go up for tenure or not. I'm not a fan of tenure because it's a "you get it or you're fired" system everywhere, that is way too inflexible for today's workplace. But I've done it because it was the law, literally, and I got it always even though I didn't even seek or want it.
For those hiring us older faculty who come with tenure whether we want to or not it means that if the hire turns out to have been mistake for the boss the boss can't get rid of us. If the boss hires younger untenured faculty right out of grad school, though, they're not only cheaper.
You also have more power as a boss to fire them if they don't work out.
It's an interesting USA opposite of free market economics and an open marketplace for negotiating contracts freely like you're used to doing. Boy, would I ever have preferred your negotiating position.
Tenure hamstrings both parties in academe, and yet in nearly all places it can't be refused. In 40 years of an academic career interviewing at dozens of schools in higher education, I only ever got to interview at one school that didn't have the tenure system.
Unfortunately your boss doesn't make things any easier
I'm glad that you just have 2 more years until the next adventure sweetie....
You and the good friends you've made will still be in touch I have no doubt because you're a good friend
They'll want to be visitors in Mexico!!…..xo
Anyway, stomach upset. Then when I made myself go out to my usual family restaurant around the corner, for the first time all summer something wasn't right with the food. It was fish, and it was under cooked.
I didn't say anything, but the waiter knows me so he came over, saw it, and made it right with another order. Great guy.
By then, though, I'd tried a few bites of under cooked fish on an already unwell tummy, so ick.
Then, I tried logging on here and neither of my two used laptops I brought down here would work. Guess what? It wasn't the laptops.
Hours later, I found out that TelMex, the national phone company that also runs the Internet, had a massive outage that affected millions across the country.
Obviously, all's well that ends well. I'm here, so that means the Internet's working again. But what a day, huh?
Logging on and finding your squishy hug was especially great, then, This day being a bit of a challenge, it was very timely! :-)
"Space Oddity by David Bowie
Ground Control to Major Tom
Ground Control to Major Tom
Take your protein pills and put your helmet on
Ground Control to Major Tom
Commencing countdown, engines on
Check ignition and may God's love be with you
Ten, Nine, Eight, Seven, Six, Five, Four, Three, Two, One, Lift off"
Believe it or not, it's helping.....