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arfie 03/25/2013

It was a great party weekend at my house! Lots of laughs and hugs and even love in bloom. My son and his new wife used our place to celebrate his 29th birthday. They live out of town but wanted to celebrate here. They are both from here and only moved recently.

Like too many of us, it is easier for me to navigate mental illness than emotional health. I was raised in a string of party pads and conditioned to the emotional fallout to start with the hangover remedies. My husband was raised with chronic perfection and conditioned to emotional blowouts during preparation of the game faces. Together, our social interactions are unpredictable, at best.

So, here I sit on the morning after, waiting for the fallout.
All good things must end on a sour note, right?
The only purpose for happiness is giving Them a higher pedestal to kick you down from?
No good deed will go unpunished?

or...

Should I just trust the good memories and move on?

deleted_user 03/25/2013

Please trust and move on. It sounds like you had a wonderful visit. Keep it there. Don't take on any extra negative thoughts. I will inbox you as well.

Netien 03/25/2013

How nice you had such a good weekend. Might be it is not only distrust towards the good stuff but also distrust towards life in general. I should say take the good moments at heart, no matter what will be next. I know, easier said than done but the good is in the moment itself. Never in what came before or afterwards.

TwilightStar 03/25/2013

I vote trust and move on. If something negative is going to come up it will make itself known. No use in donating extra time and energy to dreading the unknown.

If only I could take my own advice lol

deleted_user 03/25/2013

it is your happiness and ppl can try to put you down, but they cant, when you dont accepet kicking down from them there they cant take it or do anything, rejecet it, and good things are for you too, sometimes it can end with sour note and when that happen remind yourself good memories

i also know that this is easier to say than do and i would suggest reject or give a note to negative and think do you really need it, anyway negative arent much of use or helpful ones, and accept good memories which will help you when you have your bad moments

take care and be well

deleted_user 03/25/2013

I have lived those four lines over and over, but i like your last line best. Thanks for the reminder! :)

Beaumont 03/25/2013

Good deeds do go unpunished, unless you are in the presence of psychopaths. Keep doing good deeds, and normal, healthy people will begin to recognize you for what you are, a good person too. And you will find it rewarding to do good because it makes you feel good. There is also the circle principle that if you do good for others, they will be more likely to good for yet another person, and so on, until someone finally does a good deed for you and the circle is complete. Just be patient for your reward to reach you, and be persistent in doing more good deeds.

Kindness, like a boomerang, always returns.

deleted_user 03/25/2013

That saying sounds like my mother who said "laugh in the morning and cry by night', so we were all afraid to laugh cuz then we'd have to cry about something.
It also sounds like the party life you grew up with was an extreme such as I've seen also when people party in an out of control way, and when things get out of control there are consequences.
It sounds though like your son had a nice celebration of his birthday and you don't need to 'wait for the other shoe to drop' so to speak.

Life has ups and downs anyway, but it's not really because you had an up that you will eventually have a down.

Congratulations on having a son that successfully reached the age of 29 :) Next year is the big 3 - 0. Get ready. :P

mujicaptsd 03/27/2013

To respond to your query: yes. But thanks for asking. It's typical of me, too, to almost need to ask permission to enjoy myself. But it's happening more and more.

Congrats to you, your son, and your family, and for a great celebration of life!

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