When I went up for tenure for my community college job in 2016, I had to provide evidence of community service, so I submitted my work as Community Leader for our PTSD support group here on Daily Strength.  Boy, was that a mistake.  My boss, who is my department Chair, and her boss, my college VP, held an emergency committee meeting just to discuss my new revelation.

I got tenure after all, because 80% of my student evaluations were really, really super nice to me, but the stigma stuck.  Now as I'm 3 days from retirement, it seems to be back again. While I was on the phone with the staffer from my pension fund in detailed financial discussions, my boss started texting me on my phone.  It got weird.  I'm glad I only have 3 more days until I officially am retired from working for her any more.  I told her what I was busy doing, and she texted me back that I was "unprofessional." 

I've emailed her every day this semester working from home, I only ever took half a sick day, I got my grades in on time, and y'all saw in an earlier post here how students were nice to me again this week, so I'm professional.  Then after calling me unprofessional, though, she demanded a personal favor--would I go to the supermarket for her. 

When I said no, I'd see her tomorrow at the department Zoom meeting she has scheduled as Chair, she went off in another text about how I was not "helpful."  I don't know her well personally, she's just my department Chair and therefore my boss, so this was all pretty disorienting to me.  I wrote back just that I have to complete my pension paperwork before flying to Mexico May 19th, or after my last June paycheck I won't have any income there in July.  Sorry you don't understand, I wrote.

I'm the one with the mental health diagnosis, yet I get the stigma while this Chair behaves in a way I never have.  It's not fair.

Support welcome to get me through the next 3 days, please.

Muji