Arfie-

Hopefully, empathizing won't look like hijacking.

My uncle has a stepson -- 31. He's been spiraling into frank mental illness, only exacerbated by the drug abuse that he keeps bouncing in and out of ... likely in a futile effort to self-medicate.

And my uncle always loved this boy as his own.

It's ... heartbreaking. Words can't express.

I have some idea of what you must be going through. It sucks. I hope (maybe against hope) that it turns around.

But these kids ... may be YOUR kids ... but ... they aren't kids.

Know what I mean ??

Tragic. Unbelievably tragic.

Big hug of comfort for you... I think you're doing the right thing... Bless you...x

Been there with our youngest. Did call the cops and eventually he got some help, yet he's still a ticking time bomb. It's perhaps one of the hardest things a parent has to do, yet you may save him from a long prison sentence, since most escalate. If he has a drinking or drug problem on top of this, AA and NA has people who will come and talk to him (12th step). I helped do this years ago and we did manage to reach many.
We'll definitely send some prayers and if he's willing, he could even message me, since I also been on that "slippery slope",(came real close to killing 3 on 3 different occasions myself, because i was out of control). Here for you too, if needed, Blaine

Sad for him and for how hard this is for you and your hubby as parents, too, arfie. We're here for you to support you as you need us through this.

I understand. It is the worst position to be in. You want so badly for the kid to pull their crap together. You know they need to. You know you can't live like that. Ugh...just a difficult place to be. I will say to you what I say to myself.

Do what you have to and know you are making the best decision that you can for all the right reasons. Love yourself as much as you love him.

Hugs and sending positive thoughts.

Thanks guys. Everything still in a holding pattern. Still praying.

Arfie, many prayers and good thoughts for you and yours. So sorry you're facing this, many hugs.

Still praying, too, next day. We're here.

Prayers sent Arfie.

Right here, holding steady, arf.

Warm thoughts and prayers,((( Arfie)))

. If he won't consider getting help, then maybe contacting authorities would be best. The NA/AA approach may work, also, IF he can accept he has a problem.

You may try to contact the nearest treatment center to see if they may help with an intervention.

Oh I am sorry to hear about this Arfie! I did go thru something similar a couple years ago. Not sure how my daughter or I survived. She is doing wonderful now, so there is hope hon!

Your family will be in my thoughts. I mean that!!

Sending much positive vibes, along with healing energies Arfie.

Still keeping the good thoughts going....

You can call Adult Protective Services, too...

Will keep you and your family in my prayers/thoughts.