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proudaunt
proudaunt
A friend of mine had shared a link to a great site to help you talk to your kids about shooting, I passed it on. Boy was that a mistake. You since I am not married and have no children. This so called friend, mad a nasty comment about who am I to give advice when I have no kids of my own.
I do not have children but I do love my niece and nephew so much. My niece is already suffering PTSD and now is even afraid to go to school. My nephew Matthew said he would die so that he could save a little one. States he had a good life the little kids to live longer. Kids should not have to deal with these tragedies,

Back to the friend, I may not have my own children, but I am a good person who loves all the children. So painful. She then said anyone with mental illness should be locked up. So hurtful not everyone with mental illness is ready to go out and shot people
deleted_user
deleted_user
Your friend is experiencing grief, the way we all experience grief at some point. What you heard was anger. But we all get that way, no? I was very pissed off at my own father when he told me Saturday that he doesn't understand why I have PTSD. He said that my sister went down to N.O. a year after the storm and drive around and was fine. He even said at one point that he doesn't have any problems dealing with the memories if the hurricane. (He was not down there before, during or after, and has no connection to the area). It's one of those "only I know the way I feel" angers your friend is feeling, and I'm pretty sure we've all been there. Be supportive to her as she needs it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It shows her emotional immaturity.

Experiences, feelings, emotions, love, loss, trauma, etc. are felt in all kinds of relationships, not just between parents & children or between spouses.

Sorry, I can see it really hurt your feelings.
Hugs, Violet
proudaunt
proudaunt
The worst part is I never judged her when she picked up and left her husband and then 8 year old child. Just so she could move to FL with someone she met online. Her son sees her every month or two.

Just really hurts because she knows how bad I wanted kids.
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
As someone who was a kid when I survived a public shooting and got PTSD, I'm glad to see the care shown here for how this is presented to kids. Kids understand death differently at different stages in their development. I was touched to hear that when teachers were able to lead the survivor children out of the crime scene they had the sense to ask the kids to close their eyes and hold the grown-ups' hands. It's not like we're encouraging denial, but a 5 year old is not equipped for the memory of crime scene like that. I know. I'm sorry someone was angry with you, that's their grief, but I'm glad you care.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am so sorry for your pain. I have had similiar experiences with family and friend and often wondered how they could understand something I did not understand at that time. Im not invalidating your pain proudaunt. One thing I have learned to do is concentrate on what I am going thru whether it is a new trauma, a trigger or feelings. I do try and look for solutions. We all deal with PTSD in different ways but after years my solution box has a few things in it and Im gaining more here. I learned that trying to change peoples attitudes (sometimes they do) but try to empower myself to find change with me. Remember that you are a good person and you love children. Perhaps telling yourself that when you are hurt will help. Just sharing my experience~