I do that too. (Deal with things at the time, then the echo chamber of my head takes over at home.)

As for how some students behave in college...well it's been an eyeopener.

Working his way through college...my son gets annoyed by them even more than I do.

Big squishy hug Muji…..

It sux the students are disrespectful to their teachers especially nursing students in a death and dying class.... I think that's troublesome

I'm sorry that you've had to go through this and that your boss has made it impossible for you to be able to comfortably discuss classroom situations with her …

Another hug..... I hope that you're able to have a peaceful evening...… xo

Hugs and lots of support Muji!

You are so very brave and strong to return to work after surgery and then stay composed after being disrespected. I’m so sorry you had to be subjected to such rudeness. It seems so much of the world has lost the ability to be empathetic and respectful. But there are some of us still left.

Hugs and continued support. You’re a continuous inspiration to so many of us.

It really upsets me to hear that anyone is disrespectful to such a great stand up human being as yourself Muji, especially in a death and dying class. I am cheering you on as you head toward retirement.

As Vitava said so well "It seems so much of the world has lost the ability to be empathetic and respectful". Completely agree.

(((((((hugs))))))) Muji, you are a great person.

I went back and forth about posting this, but here goes. Please ignore if it doesn't fit.

As I said before, I often come home with words and then have them bounce back and forth in my head. But I try to own them, the original words weren't mine, but my head is...the other person may be clueless to their affect.

Life is strange though. Things that start out go wrong, don't always end up being so bad in the long run.

***My son's frustration over damaging the car came up again today. The cost is a lot to him now...but in the long run, maybe not so much.***


I'm probably not explaining very well. It's sort of like the Buddhist sorry about the farmer and the horse. Although the Buddhist story is more neutral and I perfer to look for the good...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=byQrdnq7_H0

So, ya know, maybe this student was rude. But maybe another student saw it and decided to be nicer. And maybe that person was nicer to another person....

Anyway, things still bounce in my head. But the thought that good will come from stuff...comforts me.

Sorry about stresses of disrespect in your work!! Triggers are difficult especially with the fatigue from surgery.

All I can think of helpful to say is
keep using your tools and coming here for support.

And as the triggers subside you will rediscover your peacefulness

Im sorry your students are being difficult.

Sending hugs and support.

i’m sorry muji... when i was a student i couldn’t imagine being disrespectful to my professors. so i cannot understand why that would happen :( makes me upset. but supportive hugs to help you through xxxx

Thanks for the reassurances, friends, Patti, thanks for that link to the story of the Chinese farmer, I really loved the lesson it taught about equanimity. Yes, things are more complex than what we know. Even when people behave badly toward us, the reason is not really us, right? It's misdirected anger from something or someone else we don't even know.

Remembering that is helping me let it go. I reserved a hotel room for a couple of nights in the city and bought a ticket to a live stand up comedian's show. I'm hoping to laugh it off.

I couldn't have done it without bringing it here, though. You're the ones in the world who understand how stuff like this can trigger PTSD and lead to a need for something like a weekend getaway from it to regroup. Other people might say it's silly to plan a getaway over something like that, but you know why it's not.

Thank you.

Update: after school Friday I found the student who had blessed me out in 3 emails on Thursday had settled down. By Friday he understood my grade warning that he took as a provocation had actually been a favor. He got that I'd been offering him the chance to drop the course to avoid getting a bad grade on his record on the upcoming midterm report cards.

So on Friday I found his email saying "thank you for your honesty." He was indeed dropping the class to avoid a bad grade on record as I suggested so as to take the course again with a fresh start next time. He didn't apologize, but thanking me instead of blessing me out again was apology enough.

It was so good to come here to DS PTSD to relieve my stress when his Thursday emails blessing me out triggered me. The fact that I then got this thankful email was icing on the cake. But knowing I could bring my triggered PTSD stress here where people listen and understand helped me get to work in the first place.

It helped me teach all day without knowing if the student would settle down or not. Knowing I had this kind of DS PTSD support meant I could function regardless and do my job. Thank you for the support that helped me do that.

Now I can go to the comedy show tonight and enjoy it all the more. DS PTSD works for me, thanks to you.

I wish I could be more open like you on DS. I post infrequently because I'm scared. The last 6 years of my life are the only ones I wasn't abused physically and emotionally. I'm 57. A lifetime of abuse. It started so early I thought it was normal. Had to be told by a therapist it wasn't normal. I'm shy and timid. Afraid of people.

I completely understand. I'm almost three months out, unemployed and exhausted all the time. I swear I could sleep the whole day away. One suggestion my primary care dr told me was to up my vitamin b12 and vitamin D. I haven't see a difference yet but it's only been a week on the higher doses. Also try to get more protein in. Even if you are already getting plenty.
At the hospital the therapists always said and "triggers are our friends". It's annoying but true. Try and keep track of what is triggering you so you can be better prepared for it later. Sounds like you got through the week well. I hope you enjoyed the comedy show. Big HUGS!

I'm glad that the student has seen the light. Good job, Muji...good job!

I agree with SC about the students disrespectfulness. Hope things get better at work too hugs

Students hey? They've always been the same.