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Starting to have regret

guitarman79
guitarman79

My friend I told You  guys about, tlhe one I un-friended on Facebook (the one with the mentally Ill brother)  The posts she poosted on Facebook of her brother, were causing anxiety  and flashbacks.


Lately though, I have been having regrets about that.


Cause I have been thinking the deecision to un-friend her might come back to bite me in the ass,  Like her husband might come over and make me pay for it, If she/he ever found out or her husband may bring her brother over, And he will actually let her brother pysically hurt me, and he will not get held back.   (Gotta get this shit out of my mind,  but the flashes are awful)   The family has always let their son fight their battles for them. Because,  once again they have to "humor" him, also, he understand's a family goes to bat for one another.



When I actually un-friended his sister, It was like a huge weight had been lifted off me,  Now, I keep thinking about it and am starting to feel guilty about it,  What if I am confronted about it what am I going to say, if she asks me why I un-friended her?

Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Big hug guitar

She probably hasn't even noticed sweetie

I never check at least to see if anyone has unfriended me

I would try and reason this out

If she ever asks you can just say you aren't sure what happened
A glitch if you don't want to explain any more than that

Deep breaths
And another hug of calm and support...xo
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
Same here, guitarman79, I'll bet she hasn't even noticed and if she does, that technical explanation could suffice for your safety's sake. Sending you support, amigo.
Kiwasicu
Kiwasicu
If they come to your house don't answer the door. Make sure any entry doors are locked. Get yourself to a safe place in your home like the bathroom or any room you can lock yourself in and call 911. Explain to 911 that you have been having problems with these people and you are in fear of your life. Don't be afraid to call for help. I know this is extreme but its for just in case purposes.

Hopefully she won't notice you unfriended her or even care. If she just asks you why you unfriended her just say like the person above me said that you didn't and you heard there's been a glitch on Facebook unfriending random people. If you're out in public and someone comes up to harm you scream for help. Make a lot of noise. Draw attention to yourself.

You can also try calling your local police department and explaining the situation and ask them for advice.
arfie
arfie
i've never met a decision i couldn't regret. sometimes the regret is immediate, but more often it sneaks up on me later to vomit regrets all over my progress.

i remind myself that done is done. i don't get to rewrite the past.

let go and let god. . .
onward through the confusions and contusions.
Community LeaderLeo
Leo
Don't worry. Odds are, IF she notices, she won't put that much effort into being upset about it. It'll be okay. People notice us much less than our anxiety leads us to believe IMO!
guitarman79
guitarman79
Thank You All
This anxiety/flashbacks are just fucking terrible
Priya953
Priya953
recently came across an article that talks about effective ways to overcome regret, and I found it quite helpful. It might be worth checking out to gain some insights and find ways to cope with any regrets we may have. Here's the link https://yourmentalhealthpal.com/ways-to-overcome-regret/
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