Hugs to you. Stay strong. I carry around my distress tolerance cards to help me when I'm in a bad space and can't think straight. Be kind to yourself. Always move through forgiveness and grace to restore hope.

I tend to do it in the form of self sabotage.

If I get myself first, there's not much left for "THEM."

The check's in the mail...

If you find the key to unlock the cure..share it.
I do it myself, I think for some of what Deli mentioned. A line from long ago " If I'm going to go, I'm going to go my way." beating others to it.

Keeping mine in check as much as I can lately also. Not as easy as some make it look.

A bit of a perfectionist by chance? Sometimes I think we try so hard to fit in that we beat ourselves up when we feel we have failed at a task or event. Beating ourselves up one way or another seems to be a for everyone here. It might be negative self-talk, drugs, alcohol, cutting, self-sabotage, whatever the poison, it is all the same in the end, punishing ourselves. Be kind to yourself and cut yourself a break.
Hugs

Ditto. If I beat me down, no one else could do it. A bizarre self-defense, but ... Now I must learn to stop. Ouch.

I try to be as kind to me as I would be to others. It's harder than it sounds.

I avoided the big self-destructors but I still have some to work on, and I think once I realize I am safe to express like healthy people do, it will ease....But so easy to fall back to old habits!

Work in progress. THat's me!

Thanks for bringing it up:-) Good topic to have on minds.

BTW, this title made me laugh. At the Catholic school I went to, "self-abuse" was code for male masturbation!