Oh, yes.
Unfortunately, you can't stop him from walking away, or make him face his issues if he does not want to?

I know that, to some degree, Mr Crazypants and I DO trigger each other. This means we don't have the luxury of ignoring our issues if we want to stay together.

I just want to live, and live fully, so I'm going to keep on truckin', keep on healing. You can only do for you.

You are NOT garbage.

He's fleeing because of his own problems. It's a dreadful loss, no way around it. But please to get on with getting yourself better, because that is what you have control over. Get some offline support too? I mean, we're awesome here, but offline support packs more punch.

((. HUG ))

Yes, my wife and I divorced after 10 years of marriage, and it wasn't what I wanted, either. In my case, though, I recognized she warned me she couldn't handle my PTSD history. Before our wedding, I took her to the overseas location here where I'm visiting now (Uruguay) where my PTSD began. At the end of the trip, she broke down and said it was too much for her to handle. I didn't listen, coming to the rescue and reassuring her it would be ok, and we got married.

I did my PTSD therapy during our marriage, but because of her sensitivity to the story behind it in Uruguay, I let her stay on the sidelines of my recovery. That proved to be my 2nd mistake.

In your case, since you both have PTSD, it's different. Perhaps you could go to a therapist together?

It's been 15 years since my divorce. Since that was the 2nd one, my first one being a nearly identical story after 3 years of marriage, I've decided avoiding repetition compulsion is more important than proving I can be married. It is lonely at times, but I'm proud I've at least stopped making the same mistake.

I'm really sorry about what you're going through because I know too well how it really feels. I wish I had the solution to offer you, but at least you can know you are definitely not alone in what you're going through.

sorry for yoru losses coming just take good care during this hard time

i think the first step you have already done and it is recognizing the relationship isn't good. I am sorry he is filing . Being triggered constantly is not good for either one of you if there is no coping, therapy etc that involves you both.

it took me three or four years to finally get the courage to leave the bad marriage and it was intensely scary, i was alone and desperate and i too made the choice to leave. it did take a while but eventually i was very happy alone. blue has said what i would say, please keep working on healing you.

sorry for your pain

I am sure it is very difficult for you right now, pain of divorce is hard. I have been through a divorce and there is light at the end of the tunnel. I did a lot of counselling to get a new pattern next time. It did help, my husband now is committed and goes to couples therapy with me to help my PTSD. I do individual therapy too. I think he dissociates when I do and we don't help each other. Slowly, with counselling, it is getting better.
There are lots of other people out there that will walk this journey with you. Just focus on yourself now and get to a happier place. I hope that helps. Hugs to you!!

Yes my ptsd has taken a horrible toll on my marriage. My husband constantly complains that I do not engage or do anything. He tells me he cannot stand sering me this way. His way of dealing with it is to drink. It cannot handle his drinking and mood swings.

I am sorry you are experiencing this. I am sorry you are in pain. No one needs more stressor when they are trying to recover from ptsd but sometimes that is all it seems to bring, more stress, more stress and more stress. I wish I could find something to say to comfort you.