Hello.
Since "sisters" is in quotation marks, may I presume you're not really feeling the alleged love-bond of siblings we're told exists?

My late sister was one of my abusers. I owe her blood in my urine and mental torment and more. She'd be telling me to "suck it up" and simlar, were she alive. Of course, if she got the diagnosis, it'd be very real.

I don't know your background, etc., but for *one* sister to have power like that? Why? How? What's she got that no one else, that she can run the show? Why is she allowed? Is a family revolt permitted? And how do you send someone to another country without their consent? It's called kidnapping where I'm from, even if it's "family". Elder abuse at minimum, or abuse, depending upon your mom's age, as well. COercion. But I'll guess that a family revolt and/or cops aren't going to become a possibility...

So... okay, you can't afford a doctor. No permanent home. Being dared to commit suicide.

With all respect, why the heck are you still around these people? Yeah, yeah, I get it. Your mom. I have a mom. I love my mom. My mom is why I have any sanity or education or a life at all, given what my sis and dad did. But... So they're your "sisters". No disrespect to your culture, my subculture is vvery big on family bonds. That's how my one aunt was able to murder my one uncle (they were siblings, btw). Hey, family! Family "should".... Yes, and then they don't.

My one suggestion?

Rant here. Ask the what-ifs and answer them all, no matter how extreme or panic-inducing the answers. (I end up with some odd ones, like "well, apparently, I believe the cosmos will end..."). Maybe there are no social services available for your mom or for you, but you got DS. We're here.

Healing hopes to you, and supporitve puma purrs.

Thank you so much. My "sisters" were my abusers too. That particular "sister" was very abusive to me as a child she has the power because she has $$$$$.

She is saying IF anyone helps me she will withdraw my mother $$$$ and leave her basically with no apt.

Psychologically she also has the power because being I confronted the horrific child abuse the other two did to me. My whole family gang up against me n denial and punishment for speaking the truth. Text book case of how extremely dysfunctional families react at their victim speaking out.

I am in contact with them due to ending up basically homeless and my mother offering me to stay in her ex-apartment which she can not live in anymore because it has no elevator and its 6 floor.

My mother is 88 and her health is not very good. I also think me out of existence which my "sisters" did try to literally do and now they dare me to commit suicide. Even with me out of the pic what that particular "sister" wants to do to get rid of having to deal with my mother is horrific.

My mother does not want to go there. She wants us to live together instead of being sent to another country.

My mother has good Insurance in Cali where she lives cause my father was a vet.
She does not have insurance where they are going to send her and its a Latin country their Gov services are third world and their private docs and hospitals very expensive! She would get no access to those.

I find myself wondering if it matters which country you are in and which country your sister wants to send your mother to? Just wondering. . . Location matters allot in sorting through available options, even within a single country or region.

More encouragement to keep venting, Kaisad. It helps with the sorting.

I am not where my sisters want to send her to. She will be far from us. She will have a caretaker from that country with her but since my mother has schizophrenia she will have huge problems with her caretakers
God forbids the caretaker calls the cops or they take her to a mental asylum in a third world country run by the Gov.

"Third World" is thoroughly confusing. Many consider it a degrading and all-to-often misleading stigma, but. . . If it means something to you. . .

Continued support while you sort.

If the threat is to ship your mom off to another country --- out of the US --- that's human trafficking, abduction, all knids of crimes.

Yes, people deny. Even those abused will deny, b/c staying on the abusers' good side eases life. My sis was Dad's little mirror/parrot that way. Didn't save her, long-term, but it ... Y'know, I dunno what it did to her.

Vent away.

Thank both of you. Yeah Arfie know what you mean what people would call the 3rd world in a derogatory name. I know my mother she is extremely picky. She would freak out into a schizophrenic fit if she had to be treated in the Gov run facilities of one.

Even people who do no have schizophrenia do. Some things in a so called 3rd world country are actually nice. But their Gov medical is not one of them.

Thank you leo. I spoke to my mother today now they are lying to her. She thinks she is going on a vacation. They are not telling her they are sending her on a one way ticket.
I can not do much more than I offer them to do. I do not have the money like they do.
I do want to ask if there are charges I can press against the one sister responsible for this specially IF something happens to my mother. I do not know who to ask.

Hi ,
I do not know where you live but you can report elder abuse, preventing your sister from doing anything concerning your mothers health. Talk to the Police, plus there are private counselling places that are free all over the world. Plus different places online that have free counselling. but I agree you can talk here no problem. do not allow them to control you, I do not know how old you are but is there welfare, or social assistance programs you can go to. another thought is you can go to women's shelters, they are not only for spousal abuse, they are for any kinds of abuse. they too are all over the world. As for taking your mother out of the country you can talk to the Police and tell them what is happening making them aware of your situation. They may even be able to give you names of places that can help you. Maybe if you tell us if you are in the Usa or somewhere else then someone can help you who lives where you are. I wish you all the luck, no one deserves this I too came from a dysfunctional family and abuse ran ramped. it is not easy. Have you ever had a professional look into your situation for you? Take care Casey

Who to ask: Police; Social services (they usually have adult protection agents specific for this sort of thing, who may also be able to help *you*); local proseucting attorney office.

Be clear. Timeline. This person is doing this. Keep it short and sweet on paper and that way, they can't just let their reactions to your emotions cloud the situation. Been here, done this. We never did get it to work, but with luck you'll have more help.

Also, if you can find out what facility she'd be going to? Which country? IF she's a US citizen, they might not accept her, b/c hey, she's a US c itizen, let the US deal with her. Just an idea.

Luck.

Thank you CasMac they can not really control me but they can my mother because they support her.
What the one sister is saying is that IF she doesn't want to go she will not help with money anymore that leaves no choice for my mother but to go.

Thank you Leo I am looking into it. Thanks so much again.

I really appreciate it.