THanks for link. I will check it out after my therapy today.

Yeah, if I hear "Get over it" one more time? I"m gonna tell them just what it is I have to get over and provide a barf bucket for them.... Wow, I am a grumpy lioness today!

Thank you. I thank my body for trying to protect me, then tell it that know I'm grown now and can take care of us. This is good confirmation for what I do. Thank you again for posting this.

Jimbo,

I hate that term, It's added to the list of other sayings that people say that I hate. It makes me want to punch them in the face, and say "get over it".

I know that may offend anyone, and I'm sorry if I did, but we all know how it feels when people say "get over it"

The last "friend" that told me to get over it .......Well I totally did.
I blocked them from calling, texting, emailing and I simply got over talking to them:) so it worked . ( I did not argue with them and did not give a reason eighter and do not feel one bit guilty!)
I hope they got over it LOL. (thats the brat coming out in me)

SO YEP , got sick of hearing it.

Wow, that was a good article. I cut and pasted it into my offline journal.

Seems even when those suggestions for us to "get over it" are well-intended, they are more for the person speaking to us than they are for us, you know? Her analysis of "resistance" without guilt or feeling weak for having it was right on. Anyone who puts us down for our resistance doesn't understand that resistance is probably what kept us alive during the trauma we survived. It's why we're survivors in the first place. So resolving it doesn't have to entail feeling guilty for having it. Any more than thinking we "should" have survivor guilt.

Good stuff. Thanks!

Thanks for sharing that. I saved it.

oh oh Wellbe's got a "Brat"... I knew I was gonna like you!

About resistance ... I told my somatic experiencing lady that I was afraid I wasted a session with my resistance (I was very afraid that day).

She said "I see it differently. You have to be able to say 'no' before you can let go."

I was so grateful. Her saying that changed everything for me.

And I'm still resistant. Because I'm still terribly afraid. I don't even know what I'm so afraid of.

Hi, I am new to the group. I am hoping to find more solutions and support just like this! Truly, I have eliminated people from my life who have constantly said, "get over it" If they only knew how many times I asked my own self, "why can't I get over this?"

thank you LillyPotter! what is cptsd? is that chronic?

ok, so then if you were abused in childhood, then for example, abusive boyfriend, then abusive spouse, then parents after that with some intermittent terrible stuff happending inbetween then, is that what it means?

Yeah, sort of. Here at DS PTSD we often pass around this link to good therapist definitions of it.

http://www.pete-walker.com/fAQsComplexPTSD.html

jptexas: welcome :-)

We have to be careful.

Trauma is like a car accident. It would be easy for us to say that what you went through is a car accident, but to diagnose your symptoms FROM that car accident is probably best left to the experts.

It IS a good idea, though, to look at the Pete Walker site, AND to do a little Googling about PTSD or C-PTSD, but ... from there ... may I kindly recommend you seek out a therapist experienced in trauma ?

I wish you peace, health, and strength.

Let me just say first, I was diagnosed with PTSD by a psychologist recently. I did not believe her (of course denial....blame, shame and all the other masochistic responses).

After reading the link's post and some other material, WOW, definitely in my wheelhouse. I have been wondering why my heightened responses to stressful situations have continued to escalate; why I have gotten worse with dealing with people, situations, overreactions, isolation, on/off response and just feeling really down and not wanting to do ANYTHING. Granted a lot of bad things have happened these last several years, but I am not moving past them. I feel stuck and counseling is not helping.

Now I know why and will be looking forward to trying to heal on the inside now and not just the outside. Thank you all.