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Loved one raged at my PTSD

Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd

I was shocked to have a loved one rage at me about my having PTSD today, telling me to stop it as if I could turn it off like I can turn off my big screen tv with my remote.  This loved one knows everything about it, my trauma history, the medical info, and still they insisted.


They scoffed at my physical scar on my left arm from a bomb burn when I was in a war zone as a missionary kid abroad, saying "yeah, whatever" dismissively.


I DO wish I could just dismiss my PTSD like that, I really do. 


But I can't, and having someone close to me rage at me for that really hurt.  It scared me, too, because this loved one is one of my caretakers now that my 10 years of living alone independently is impossible and I need home health care.


I feel very frightened and alone now.

TimothyRRC
TimothyRRC
It could be that this person is as tired as you are, battle fatigue. You can accept what they say, or you CAN reject it, you've accepted, maybe unwisely?
arfie
arfie
gentle empathy on the discomfort of such attacks, but i allow my loved ones venting rights. venting is seldom accurate or fair. it is but a build up of illogical stress toxins. it is not healthy to hold on to stress toxins. vent it, baby, vent it.

this is one of the places my support network is quite helpful. when i listen to/read my sibs-in-healing agonizing over events 50 years past, i listen and empathize to the best of my ability, even after i have heard their trauma tails often enough to have them memorized and embellished. especially then?

i don't believe it is too much to extend those rights to my loved ones. as one who has been on both sides of the help desk, living with the trickle down effects of ptsd is not any easier than living with it as a patient. as a patient, i have far more support than i do as a supporter.

for what it's worth
working through these confusions with my loved ones provides me with considerable healing mojo.
Community LeaderLeo
Leo
Told you in a PM, tell you here: Someone's taking her issues and lobbing them at you. She needs to yell at a mirror. That's who needs to hear it. IMHO.

Much affecction, hermano
TimothyRRC
TimothyRRC
Respect is key, allowing disrespect of you is foolhardy, there is no 'just' reason for it, disrespect purely and simply is wrong either proactively or reactively, it only causes sadness/suffering.
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
Thanks for helping me understand what could be going on here. I'm thinking now about how I'm going to draw a boundary in this situation concerning the respect mentioned while still enjoying their support without selling myself out.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Huge hug Muji...Im so very sorry that this happened to you....xo
LadyLight
LadyLight
Mujicaptsd, sorry to hear you go through this. I wish you safety and comfort.
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
Thanks, y'all.
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