No NEVER!!!!! any type of abuse is wrong. Who told you to call it kids stuff anyway?

:( one of my abusers...my older sister.

Sibling abuse is abuse.

I think that it's definitely still abuse, but depending on the ages of the kids involved, the abuser may genuinely not know he or she is doing anything wrong, or may be being abused him/herself. So I think in cases like this, it's definitely more complicated, but that doesn't mean it's not abuse for the other kid that's getting abused.

my son was attacted at a young age..there is no excuse..they know right from wrong..if it stays as an excuse as just childs play then that child will continue on that road..abusers stay abusers because they were never punished and think they can get by with it..as for that child that is doing this..they need serious help and things not swept under the rug..

No thats bull. Its the same kind of thing as when people say "boys will be boys" to excuse terrible behavior.

No excuse for abuse.

My understanding is that, driven by a natural curiosity, very young children will show each other their sexual parts as a game...and that's normal behavior for children. But when an older child gropes a younger child or does more serious things sexually...it's abuse and it should be stopped immediately.

Abusers always have an excuse for what they do to their victims, don't buy into any of it.

I've noticed that people who do criminal things always have an excuse for what they did...like "I needed rent money and I couldn't find a job...so I did a stick-up, no big deal. I had to do it, it's not my fault that jobs are so scarce."

I overheard my father arguing with my mother once..."They don't remember anything that's done to them before the age of six...so what happened doesn't matter." There's always an excuse.

EVERYBODY!

I want to thank everybody for your responce. You have no idea how you have set me free from so much confusion and shame!!!

Blessings to you my friends!

Several of my abusers were under the age of 18. But most were several years older than me.

My therapist said that one guideline is age. If the "abuser' is 4 or more years older than the victim, then it's more easily classified as abuse instead of kids engaging in natural exploratory actions.

This makes sense to me, although obviously there are exceptions. One of my abusers was just a couple of years older than me. She obviously knew way more about sex than I did, though! I strongly suspect that's because she was being abused herself and it's easier for me to accept what happened. I don't think it was right or fair, but I also don't think it was entirely her fault.

In any case - your feelings matter, they're important, and they're legitimate. If you were hurt, you were hurt and no one should tell you to feel otherwise.