It seems that who we "think" we are is the essence of all our thoughts, emotions, values, and actions. If our family of origin were loving and supportive, we hopefully formed a strong sense of self-esteem. But if we were criticized, rejected, or abused- physically, sexually, or emotionally- we carry that damaged self-image forward into our adult life and it affects all the choices we make.
How do you feel about yourself right now?
Those of us who have endured trauma must deal with its effects for the remainder of our life. We can let it give us a "victim mentality," or we can envision ourselves as "survivors"- stronger and wiser for the pain we have experienced. That is why there has risen an alternative to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder- Post Traumatic Growth.
It begins with awareness of our identity. Do we have a realistic perspective of ourselves? Are we aware of our strengths, abilities, and talents as well as our weaknesses? Do we feel "less-than" anyone? Do we allow others to "put us down?"
Becoming aware of the dynamics of our identity involves introspection, honest self-examination, and unconditional self-acceptance. We can form a new identity based on our real character strengths and our true values. Mistakes of the past lie in the past- we don't have to carry them into our NOW.
Yogic breathing helps us get in touch with our deeper selves. It releases the grip of the controlling ego-mind, and raises our awareness to see beyond the negative indoctrination we may have received in childhood and beyond.
"The Desiderata" a poster found in a church long ago, states:
"You are a child of the universe, no less than the stars and moon; you have a right to be here."
There's a cool sense of identity: A Child of the Universe!
Good Morning, Friends, and Happy Father's Day to all the Daddys!The sky is a deep, dark grey, with just a slice of pearl over the palms in Himmarsee Village. Seems to fit my mood perfectly. Today I sent an email to my beloved daughter, Vena, confronting the issues that lie between us, rather than allowing them to continue to take up so much space being the Elephant in my small room.She is holding...