I'm in the same boat kinda. I cant honestly say that my mom or sis care, they dont, but they sure care when it affected them. I imagine it is frustrating for all involved tho.

Like if a person is dying of cancer and they hold in their pain and never grumble to the nurses, they're easy patients. Then the next person with cancer comes in and is hitting the call button all the time they're the difficult patient. Both patients are hurting and need help but being polite and nice all the time is what everyone wants. Nurses are there to help all.

Our families aren't nurses, they're people with limited knowledge on how to handle these things. That doesnt let them off the hook tho. If they truly wanted to help they could go to the university of YouTube or Google and try some of the tools taught there. There are plenty of other resources out there to help families how to cope and how to help.

My mom didnt understand any of it and I really needed her. For whatever reason she couldnt do it and it hurt our relationship beyond repair. I hope you have a different outcome. Maybe lead her to the water if she needs a push.

I'm sorry that that hurt your relationship with your mom. :( I hope that someday y'all can be friends again. <3

Thank you for your advice and telling me your story. You have a point about the resources and wanting to help the people around you who have PTSD. It made me realize that I'm sort of a schmuck. She's been dealing with suicidal ideations, and I've gone online to try to research ways to help her. Why can't she do the same for me?

However, I don't know how to talk to her about the issues I've been having and the way she responds to them. Like she's argumentative, and she has a quick fuse. Or maybe I'm just too quick to blame. I don't know. Just how do I talk to her about it in a sensitive and positive way?

Hello Euphoria, Yes it can be very hard to deal with our loved ones and how our situation affects them. That being said , while I get that she has good intentions, I also know that what we suffer from is ailment just like any other. Granted it is caused by trauma but my point is that no one would tell someone with cancer and being treated with chemo that made them ill or made their hair fall out, two things which could interfere with life, that they can control their sickness or hair loss right?
So I think it is okay however you feel about it. If you can tolerate their ignorance of your ailment then fine, but if it is making you feel badly, maybe a good honest conversation with them would help. Maybe something that starts off with I know how much you care about me and how much my illness affects you, but I feel badly that my situation is having a negative affect on your life. Maybe we should discuss when a particular function of the family is more important than others and then I can limit my time in attendance to it so as to be able to participate yet not alter the event, and perhaps I could recommend some web sites and/or books that might help you to understand why I have limited control over the affects of my ailment. Or really whatever works for you. None of it is your fault, and people we love need to educated more I think. Maybe discuss with your therapist or doctors the situation with your loved ones and enlist the healthcare professionals assistance in educating your family. Sometimes people need to have someone other than their loved one tell them realities. Anywho, triple hugs of support while you find your way through this.~

Welcome back Euphoria …… I hope that you won't feel the need to leave again

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Thank you Evergreen. I appreciate it. You gave some really sound advice. :) I'll certainly try to explore my options.