Perhaps you could call the therapist to fill them in, or maybe call for help. Up here when police are called in over mental health issues they also come with mental health workers to help deal with the situation. I don't know what the protocol is where you are. It seems your in one of those damned if you do damned if you don't situations. I feel for you. The best of luck.

You are right to be taking his lack of self-care seriously, and I agree that you should do any intervention you can think of. Tell him beforehand if he does not choose to fight for his survival you will at least try.

To me, one of the most difficult things is when we love someone more than they (currently) love themselves. I was the only nondrinker in a family of alcoholics (including my siblings) and my attempts at help were brushed aside and slowly they destroyed their lives. We can't control another person, but we can at least step in and do our best for them. If your husband's current reasoning is not logical (and what you describe is not logical but self-destructive) and you are higher functioning, then do your best to be the one rowing the life boat back into a safe harbor.

My heart goes out to you. You may not have control of the ultimate outcome, but you can at least intervene to the extent you are able.

If he is having suicidal thoughts, planning, he probably should be hospitalized. That's just my take. I wouldn't trust him being alone, he isn't thinking rationally. I would definiately intervene with the therapist and get on the same page. I'm sorry you're going through this,

I have complex PTSD and am diabetic. Though not bipolar nor schizoaffective, that's enough for me to come up alongside your husband as you describe his problems and say it sounds like enough. Enough for you to call in outside help, in whatever form is available to you, for the sake of you both.

I know that if I were in his shape, down the line if someone did reach out for help for me, I'd eventually be grateful. Most likely not now, but eventually. And I wouldn't do it just for him, but for myself, too, from what you describe your own situation is. Thoughts and prayers with you.

Thank you everyone for the support. He was admitted to the behavior health unit last night. They are planning on keeping him a few days then getting him into an intensive outpatient day program.

Thanks so much

Audra

Thank goodness. Thoughts and prayers with him and with you now for a speedy recovery.

Audra,
Glad to hear you finally got some professional support/help for your husband. I cannot even imagine what you were going through - and I don't imagine even now it is particularly easy, but you are in my thoughts and prayers.

G

Good for you river.

It is one thing to seek advice, it is another whole level of bravery to follow through and get yourself to do something you are afraid to do.

My hat goes off to you, and my heart goes out to you.

Good to hear you have help and you are safe. I hope for you the best. You are in my thoughts.

Glad to hear he is safe and inpatient. My suggestion was also going to be towards hospitalization. I dont have bipoler or schizo, but I know once it reaches cutting,suicidal ideation and total lack of self care its time to go to the hospital. All of those other factors - you see where Im going with this. Definitely time for an inpatient stay.

I feel for you growing up and even now my mother has a lot of problems (I leave it as "problems" because she is so many things and so undiagnosed) and I often worry / have worried about her safety. Just within the last year she's had a stroke and there've been a few times I've had to call 911 after finding her passed out on the floor from substance abuse. She's diabetic now too.

It is so hard to care about someone so much more than they seem to care about themselves. Just keep taking care of yourself, first. As you can only control your own actions.

I really do hope things start to look up for you. This is hard.