Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) Support Group

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JannaL 01/28/2022

Hi. I am new here and I wanted to ask some one if it's ok to help me understand my ptsd fiance. He is the love of my life. Before we met he had a life in the army, an ex and a child. When we started dating it was fun and relaxed and easy. We lived in different cities. He asked me to move into his house. I did. Met his daughter, parents and at one point his ex. After life took its course I noticed how different he is in everyday life. The hugs diminished, the affection the romance. He has highs and lows which I don't understand and I asked about it. He told me a lot. About the ex and the number she did on him. About his daughter and how his ex left them both. The army and just plenty more. I understand and acknowledge his state of mind. He does see a therapist once a week. (He does skip it sometimes). Is there something I can do to help him in hi is lows. I am a very bubbly person and so is he usually but I can always go back and forth with how I behave around him.

2magicman 01/28/2022

Hi Jannel welcome. If he is not on medication he needs to be. The way you can help him when he low is to comfort him and be very understanding. Don't ask him a lot of questions. Those questions will come later. It is also very impotent to see his therapist when he is supposed to. It is important for you to make sure he does. If it helps go with him to therapy. It may make him feel more comfortable. You can also do you own research on PTSD online. There are books you can get on the subject. I have a friend that was in Iraq for two years. A road side bomb when off as they were traveling. It flipped there jeep my friend was riding in. It scared him to death. He has inside the jeep video of the incident and it was very hard for me to watch. I hope i gave to some insight of things to go on. I will keep your boyfriend in my prayers.

Bless B Scott

Full_of_hope 01/29/2022

Hi, Janelle. You may want to look into going to therapy yourself, or couples therapy with a counselor that is familiar with PTSD so you can get expert advice on what works in a relationship with a partner who has PTSD. We can be 'hard to love' because our moods often go where the wind blows. One day your boyfriend may be very affectionate, the next he may be disconnected and want to be alone.

Also, personally I don't believe everyone does well with meds. Finding one that works can become its own trip to hell and back. There are a lot of drug free alternatives available today, like EMDR. I have a Vet friend who uses medical Marijuana. That wouldn't work for me because I'm a recovering Alcoholic/ Addict. Everyone is different.

We're glad you're here and available for hugs and support.

mujicaptsd 01/29/2022

I'm a civilian combat veteran, JannaL, who survived a car bombing, too, and I can second what 2magicman says here. It's really important that he see his therapist. It's what turned things around for me so I could come here.

rose07042k 01/30/2022

Welcome Jannal. Your fiance is your fiance with PTSD. I am say that because he is your fiance who has PTSD. I agree with the others.

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