Invite your partner into a therapy session first. That is the best way I have found out. A third party especially a pro can do wonders. We often tune out our mates as they do us. My wife always says that she told me something a week before someone says the same thing and I heed that advice.

You guys can beat this and live a normal life.

You can.

my bf was like that right after I was raped. I know how much harder patners can make the situation. It's important that your partner realizes the way you feel, and it is NOT fair to you. Having a supportive patner makes all the difference.

I think you already know,those aren't supportive statements, of course. You can't make anyone support you. You can, however, hope that it is a product of ignorance about how healing takes place and what trauma does to a person.

You might invite them to therapy--give them a book like t'when your wife has been Sexually Abused" or "the DID Sourcebook" "Depression Sourcebook" etc. these are meant to educate people about what the person going through an illness is going through and show people what they can do to help. if they understood that it's not just a "get over it" kind of thing--from a dr.'s perspective that helps. my husband (not one who's very interestedi n being involved iwth the healing process) used to always say, "how much longer.." "are you almost done?" and really not understand anything. when he finally spoke to my t. it was helpful because he got some FACTS. they put the trauma into reality for him (which i could never do cuz i always minimized). also, can tell him it might get better faster if he helped in these ways rather than worked against me in others.

also, if he can see what you are doing to WORK to change things yourself, it might make him more likely to accept the fact that you are trying too. we tend to hide the work out of shame, then they think we are just sitting there waiting for things to get better.
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that's tough though because it takes trust for that to happen. like jmy. h. he hates the computer support. disdainfully asks, "who are you talking to now?" and doesn't realize how the support is good for him too. as long as he puts it down, it is going to be a negative in our relationship. that's hard. but usually if he can know you are making progress somewhere else, Ilike t, or see you growing somehow, that can help too.

hope things improve.
emma

Your partner probably isn't trying to hurt you, but probably just doesn't know how to deal with your stress or with stress in general in a helpful way. The comments about inviting your partner to attend therapy sessions make a lot of sense to me.

I was told that I could bring my boyfriend with me to counseling. It will help him understand the depth of my PTSD and get him advice on how to help me when I'm having a bad day or somthing triggers a thought.