I get anxiety about people showing up at my place too. I need to call maintenance about a faucet drip but am waiting for my sleep to turn around so they don't wake me up. I'm up all night currently.
Hang in there and try not to worry. Most things end up better than I imagine them when I have anxiety.

Do you have anyone who will come stay with you until they get there? That is what I would do. I don't mind people coming over, but I don't like strange men in my house when it is just me. I totally understand your anxiety. Maybe explain calmly to your boyfriend that you need more notice than that, and to always discuss it with you.

I'm sitting here nervous and unable to fully relax because I'm expecting a couple of phone calls. Low stress phone calls at that.

Debbi, I'm with you---I don't do well with the unnaounced, unscheduled, and then uncertain. I echo: if you can have someone be there with you? Or have a "safe" room where they will not be going? Or if you have anywhere else to be while they're there? I'm fond of being outside my home sitting under a tree if that's what it takes... as long as I fee like my "space" is safe.

Luck and blessing...
ANd pls, remind the cohabitant---he has to let you know about this so you can feel "ready"....

I don't like unannounced visitors we'd visit however due to prior stops and driving time we could accurately give a time... It's probably the same with the business visit you're waiting on

Welcome to the forum, Debbie.

Totally relate to the anxiety over maintenance\service windows. Even waiting on an expected delivery from a delivery person I know will put me on edge. Strangers flashing crack from tool weighted belts on their pants??? I need my full therapy tool box. I am not a good enough actor to fake okayness with it.

Gentle validation, Debbie. You are not alone. *sigh* covers it eloquently.

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I had a job that took in visits though out the day and driving time so the company wouldn't give specific times to people waiting

I hear you though ...I don't like waiting or strangers in my home... I hope the person is in and out soon...x

Omgosh!! So many comments in short period of time! Thanks guys! You're amazing!

I reminded my BF that that has always been my role to schedule maintenance, and please stick to that, as it is an issue for me. I also don't want my son surprised by strangers in the house and he neglected to inform him as well. It also isn't practical for him to arrange that as he is not close to the home and available to meet them if needed.

Thanks for the validation!!!!! I really feel better.

I made such a bit of a txt fuss to BF and felt bad, explained my anxiety about it briefly to not seem like I was starting a fight over nonsense. I couldn't help feeling I was being a bit nutty.

I've been a bit frozen. They still didn't come. I think I'll give myself 15 more mins then get up, lock all the locks so they can't come in, shower, get ready for work, then tell my (19 y/o) son to let them in while I work a bit.

I get stressed over phone calls too sometimes. What is that?

Debbie, welcome to phone-phobia central! Several of us dread hate, loathe fear or outright avoid phone calls (or all of the above).

I'm sloooowly getting better--- I still startle when I hear the phone ring but sometimes I answer it and don't sound shaky or nervous, and I can even remember what was said.

Work in progress....

I think it's just that weird deep sense tha any phone call could be a bad news phone call, for me. Phone ringing was, for so much of my life, gonna be bad news from home, docs, someone.... Thank goodness for call screening.

Lol, I'm relieved to be able to come out with some of my idiosyncrasies and hear that others have similar.

Update: While I was locked in my room, the sink, microwave and door got repaired. Whew! That is over! (It is a complex, they have a key, I didn't get around to securing the top lock)

I procrastinate phone calls with friends because I only like calling them when I'm in "the mood" for it, in a good mood, otherwise i have a hard time focusing, and feel like a fake for hiding the true mood I'm in. Same thing with business calls, I need a mood to get into it, and also it usually triggers a task list of other things to follow up on. Rarely can anything get accomplished with a simple phone call, I dread the anticipation of more follow up.

Lol, thanks for not just telling me to "grow up!"

Another phone-a-phobe here, Debbie. Even when my unpredictable hearing is up to the task of filtering electronics, I feel like most of my communication tools are disabled by the voice only nature of phones. For me, full communications include reading body language, "vibes" and cues from smell. Phones always remind me of the old folk saying, "Believe half of what you see and none of what you hear."

Lol, sorry I have to laugh. Every uses the term phone a phobe like it is bacon around here...lol.

I guess I'm a minor phone a phobe, but a major door a phobe.

So guess what I did for Halloween when my son was little?

After trick or treating, I didn't want anyone knocking on our door or expecting me to answer it. Wouldn't Halloween be the perfect night for a burglar or killer to get let into your house to kill you anyway? So we turned the lights out, hid in a tent in the back room and watched ghostbusters or other movies that didn't scare me to death. Of course snacks and everything we needed were with us...and we could use flashlight to get to bathroom. (The tent also served to hide the glow of the laptop we watched on...as well as adding to the festivities)(my son never knew we were hiding, he just thought it was our cool celebration)

Deb,

I'm with you. Not a big phone fan, and I live peacefully alone when I have the sense that my little crackerbox apartment is my castle. I know people mean well wanting to do favors for folks such as ourselves, but the biggest favor would be just to let us set the agenda as to our surroundings.