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Flashbacks after ogled in my undies

Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd

Last night near midnight I got the daylights scared out of me.  I was watching a late night movie in bed lying on top of the covers in my scivies with my leg in its cast propped up on a pillow.  All of a sudden I hear a commotion outside my hotel room door.  Then a drunk young woman burst into my room followed by her equally drunk girlfriends.


I thought I'd locked my hotel room door from the inside, but evidently not quite.  In a Penthouse Forum letter I imagine the predicament might have been interesting.  But I have the build and look of Santa Claus, not to mention that I'm a 60 year old bachelor who hasn't dated in 8 years, so sexy to me it was not.  I can make myself laugh about it now, but to be on display to a group of inebriated young ladies there on my hotel room bed in my undies was not funny at the time.  I'm a sexual assault survivor, so it triggered my PTSD for the rest of the night and set me to having flashbacks that gave me insomnia I did not need.  Yee-haw.


One of the young ladies, seeing me, exclaimed in Spanish, "oh, we must have the wrong room!" to which I roared back in Spanish, "YA THINK?!"  The platoon of unsteady young women found traction at that point, and retreated out of my room to the courtyard to re-group and seek out the correct room in which they were actually staying.


They located it in time, and this morning they confessed all to the front desk manager, saying they thought I was going to kill them when they saw me there on display.  Ha!  As a Santa Claus type, not likely, but it does say a lot about how I do not enjoy being ogled in my undies.


Wow, I am so tired, and this was supposed to be a vacation here in Mexico.  I really can't wait until this stupid leg heals and I can get this cast off and lead a normal life again......  But I do know what happened last night probably was really funny, looking back on it now.  Wishing for a siesta while trying to lessen the flashbacks by taking that humorous approach.  Peer support for my sense of humor welcome.

Community LeaderLeo
Leo
You will alulgh... but right now, I do not laugh. I puma-swat the silly drunken fools (and ask how you retort YA THINK?! in Spanish lest I need ti someday). I've had similar occur at hotels, minus the caught-in-undies, and that was bad enough. Much puma power and healing and support, Muji, and may Karma find them. Which, if they were that drunk, it probably already did...
Aspieconfusion
Aspieconfusion
Oh no! That would have triggered me off too for a bit too. Glad ur ok now and laugh about it soon. I hope u get that cast off soon.
arfie
arfie
Sorry, but. . . I can't quit oogling the image you conjured with the venting. Can't quit giggling long enough to be supportive. I'm reminding myself that this isn't a Charlie Chaplin movie, but. . . Oughta be. . . !!!Que chistosa!!!

Sincere support for your sense of humor. Please tell me you have at least half a dozen good jokes from the encounter by now.
invisablefriend
invisablefriend
From now on in your hotel rooms just wear red peppermint stripe undies
arfie
arfie
I resisted the urge to suggest little red hearts. . .
patti22
patti22
The right trigger and I can go back 40 years in the blink of an eye.
SimpsonsOK
SimpsonsOK
Oh Muji. Well at least they didn't try for selfies with you. Picturing their hurried retreat is funny. Just be glad you didn't decide to lie down nude. Hugs.
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
Ha! Thanks for both getting how it could trigger a person and yet how funny it was, too--the walking and chewing gum at the same time of the whole thing. Like so many of life's moments, right?
Kate1976
Kate1976
Hugs Muji, and actually your response is quite normal as THEY invaded your space by accident. Where I live in the USA, that could be fatal. My ex-husband intended to shoot kids years ago for ding dong ditching. I view it as a safe lesson for them to be more careful. I feel your pain in being in a vulnerable position like that but give you high fives for feeling comfortable in your
undies. Not even to that point alone. I view it as part of my goal for being comfortable with being me. One more sincere hug! Get well brave soul!
BlueSky
BlueSky
That would have freaked me out too, Muji. Glad they left you alone. What a vacation, huh? Hopefully the ptsd will calm down once you get home and are around your normal surroundings. Hugs
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
Thanks, blue and kate. Fortunately, last night I slept hard and made up for some of that distress with some good bed rest. Yay!

I also had the ankle pain subside enough that I could put a little weight on that foot and lope across the street on my crutches to my favorite Mexican restaurant. The waiters and waitresses and staff over there all know me, so it was like a homecoming. I'd been eating in my room alone all week, so it was great to have supper surrounded by all of those folks.

For the first time in 5 days, I felt like I was finally on vacation. Gracias a Dios!
dsf95
dsf95
Sorry that happened
MillaSofia
MillaSofia
Oh Muji. It is kinda hysterical now, but when I was living in France, the only teacher not gone home for a holiday, a team of drunken footballers barged into my room, which was across the hall from the bathroom-their intended target. I screamed. I had been asleep. They laughed. I yelled in as many cuss and derogatory words as I could manage, being terrified and alone in a building where they had rented out the rooms of all the vacationing teachers. I was sexually abused as a child also. I didn't sleep that night. Now awake, I could hear them all making stupid drunk sounds all night. And by the way, I've missed you. ❤
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Big squishy hug..... I am happy for you sweetie that you were able to see some humour in it..... xo
EvergreenDreamer
EvergreenDreamer
triple hugs, definitely a moment of quick breath intake followed by mental time traveling to say the least, but thank God, these young women were in Mexico and drunk or you may have ended up on a selfie live feed on facebook, you know that social media 15 minutes of fame nightmare.

So sending gratuitous thoughts that the worst of it was confined to written word and your memory and not living next door to the Kadashians on the internet. triple hugs~
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