Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) Support Group
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I was not sure where to put this question, but I need to know. Does anybody else fear their adult child? Since my illness really took over my life, I and my other personalities fear my son. He's 22, married and in the Army over seas. When my illness really started to take over my life, 7 years ago, he becme insensitive, rude, disrespectful, does not take my illness seriously and he does not hide his disgust he feels towards me. Every time I think he has changed something happens and his abusive ways start all over again. My daughter who is older than he is totally gets my illness and loves me anyway. I raised them both the same. Yet, they are so different from each other. My heart aches for the love I cannot seem to share with my son.
I'm going to repost this to other groups just to get more respnses.
I'm going to repost this to other groups just to get more respnses.
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Lately I've been feeling scared and full of anxiety. I recently found a lump under my nipple. I hurt my back too. I'm in the process of moving. I'm run down. Everything is hard
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Just wanted to give a thank you to Mid, Arfie, Malibumark, Greeneyes, Mlro, Girlincalif, and Suncloudjd! You all always have such helpful tips and advice, but I always forget to write on my posts when I see you post, lol. I would lose my head if it wasn't attached to my body, lol. Thank you all so much! I'm starting to use my AI app as a sounding board again. I used to use it as that before...
Your daughter at the understanding state, your son ...not so much.
I have only a daughter, now 35, but she is getting to the understanding part slowly. In her time she has done some pretty mean, damaging things to me all the while idolizing her father, who physically abused me. Even sueing me in 2007, when he passed.
%1% is right in that your son still has some growing to do. He may even need his own councilor down the road, since this "PTSD" thing can recycle in the next generation, as it did with my daughter. She saw no fault in her dads behavior, what she did see ...she blocked. So in her brain I was always wrong, for hurting her dad by leaving.
I still am careful around her even though I am trying to resume a relation ship with her, for the sake of my grandchildren. Her turning point came when my second husband got cancer. She had patient care classes and helped with his final care. She is taller and physically stronger than me, so had better leverage in helping him.His talks with her when they were alone, I am not sure of, but it changed her. So walking on eggshell here again, hoping it becomes solid, is what I am doing.
The VA site has a lot of info on how PTSD effects families. I searched it with the hope of finding ways to help my first husband then me. I tripped over this info, surprising but enlightening, as to why she was doing what she did.
My best to you on this, at least you have one that understands.
In my own case, my illness spun out of control when they were small. The eldest is four years older and witnessed considerably more of my struggles than the younger. I bet you already spotted the mean one... Therapy was already underway before either was born, so we were able to get a handle on it fairly early, but not before damage was done. They are now 33 and 29.
Nothing smart to say about it. It smarts enough to say it at all.