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Demanding vs. Commanding

arfie
arfie

An echo from my military training is, "If you demand respect, you will never command respect." As the echo rides the gentle breezes through my camp this morning, I find myself wondering if the difference between demanding and commanding is the willingness to work with what life sends me. When I am demanding respect, I am trying to control and/or convince you I know best. When I am commanding, I just let ^it^ be and work with life on life's own terms. If the respect you have to offer is, "Fuck off," I'll just salute with my middle finger and be on my way. Have a fucked up day, my friend.


Thoughts? Reality checks? Opines?

extraterrestrialone
extraterrestrialone
Sounds a little combative and even hostile yet at the same time appropriate, correct and makes a lot of sense. So my two impressions confuse me. Maybe I'm just too much of a pushover.
Muskoka007
Muskoka007
When I am a pleaser and it sure has it drawbacks. I do agree if you demand respect, you will never command respect. I think if you are sure about yourself, are confident but not arrogant people will respect you as you respect and love yourself.
I am working on that but it is a life long project :)
patti22
patti22
Respect is over-rated. Never asked for it from my kids. I care more about what I think of me and what they think of themselves, than what anyone else thinks.

That said, I'd say that we all respect each other. (When I feel mis-used...I walk away. Generally my kids want me around, so they're nice to me.)