I really dont know how to handle this issue and I really care about ther person so what they told me won't leave my mind :/ I am hoping u will give this post a moment of ur time...

I don't have many friends and I have found one in a family member that I just recently found. We have been talking a lot and have gotten pretty dam close! They recently truly helped me with my ptsd.. I never could find anyone to connect with on this level and I did!

Okay back to the issue. No one else in my family knows what has happened to them and that is one of the thinks that is eating me alive. They showed me their vulerable said and I think they dont want me to share with others because it will show them as week and if their brother knows then he said it might sound like they are less of a man :C I know its not my place to say anything but I think it would bring his brother closer its killing me.. any thoughts???

The second part is my family member who I am talking about just got his heart broken and two weeks later he jumps to another girl. She once was pregnent with his baby and got an abortion with out his knowledge till it was too late :/ I think he feels as if her new baby should be his and as if he is fulfilling what he lost... He then moved in with her family and now I can only talk to him at certain times and when I try calling him she is constantly asking what I am saying and he sounds really sad...

I dont want to come at him.. I know that will scare him away.. so I am trying to support him but at what cost?? how do u help someone when u can barely help urself?? I dont if I should tell other family members or confront him?? I dont want to lose our friendship but on the other hand telling him how i see things might be what i have to do..

i have been up all night about this please please help or give me some input.