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since the last time i mentioned here on DS about my coworker I did finally go and had a conversation with my supervisor. I was right about my suspicion regarding there was More than what meets the eye as to why they won't fire her.
My supervisor told me she won't do anything as this co worker happens to be a sister of a victim who passed away. I was in shock as what's that got to do with her work ethics.
now that no one is saying anything this person who sits just 3 feet away from me is causing me so much irritation with lack of work and ethics that's beyond my comprehension.
Another person who saw her not working went and told her something in referencence to working and not chatting and the co worker snapped back at her asking if she was one of those people who wanted her fired?
In all this it's everyone else who's the monster but her playing the victim card and basically no one should complain..
Im constantly feeling this anxiety and overwhelming flood of emotions as I am doing my work.
There is no respite in sight. I'm irritated and angry for them to know what's going on and not take any action and this person is just minting money while everyone around her is busting their heart out to work!!!
Apparently I am kind of feeling like they don't have my back like they said they did.
how is this fair??
I'm with you on the victim, unless it was a shooting in that office, it shouldn't interfere with the duties of the job or others doing their part. It is a place of business.
Definitely a weird situation.
the office space is too tight and there are only 2 cubicles in the whole office where they can fit more than one person, the other lady doesn't want to share her space as she does fiscal stuff....so that's out of question. This is not a shooting in the office, this happened a while ago and in some other location. Apparently no one was aware of this until she sent out a mass email to 3 top heads in the organization. I would totally get it if the death of her family member was affecting her but she seems to be joking and laughing with her mother and sister and not to mention her boyfriend for 7 hours a day saying she is not cheating on him...and there is more than that. Food is another problem - she is constantly eating fried food all day long and that stench is so nauseating to me and its almost unbearable. she tells other people to watch what they eat and cut back on sugar while she is gulping down coke. Another monthly meeting and my supervisor said basically to everyone in the room to refrain from using cell phones and texting at work and keep it a minimum and this person had the last laugh, she was on the phone for the entire day and didn't work...she was paying back 10 fold.
sorry I am venting so much, i don't know what else to do. thank you again.
If I'm right and this person is heading for a workplace meltdown from this personal grief issue that's gone unaddressed, it's probably going to get worse--there may be a meltdown--before it gets better. My agenda would be all about:
1. managing the unfairness of having to live with an oncoming meltdown where I have to go to get my paycheck,
2. staying the heck out of the way of the meltdown and the false blaming of others that's likely to follow it, and then
3. looking forward to the days after the meltdown and it's aftershocks are over.
I spell this out from memory because I went through a year like this once when I was a university professor. My university hired a guy to be my boss as chair of my department. He proved to be mentally ill, and eventually we found out he had faked his diploma and his cv and was an impostor.
Throughout that year his behavior was beyond wrong. When it all hit the fan, he tried to take others among us down with him, but fortunately failed to do that because we were ready for his meltdown.
After it was all over, I got his office. Small consolation. Much support to you because it's not fair to have to go through this, yet you're not alone.