Lol

Yeah, it came a couple updates ago. I posted about it on the Member's forum. I sort of liked it though, and never changed mine back.

I don't want to be 13 again. That was a very dark time for me. I think alot of the problems here have to do what divice we are useing.

Scott

Same here. I was me, then I'm not me-now. Gee, thanks,DS, b/c me being 13 was so freaaaking wonderful. Ack!

When that ability to put in our ages came that was just the number that was originally put in by DS....
Whacky Wendy!!!.... Did we go to school together????

Scott, I am with you on not wanting to be 13 again. The further I get from my adolescence, the happier I feel. It sure puts the perks in my aging process. . . YAY! another year from teenhood!

Jan, It is entirely possible we went to school together, but not for long. I was that kid who seldom stayed in one school for an entire semester. Wendy isn't my certified name, but I did go by "Whacky Wendy" when it suited the occasion.

Same here. 13 sucked. Though 12 was the worst year of all--so glad to get out of that one alive.

Aging has meant surviving, so aging has been GOOD.

I've blanked out most of my own childhood. But my kids are now just older than 13...and it's been more than good for them. It's sort of surreal. Triggers all over the place, more anger than I want to even consider. And more a bit, just a bit, of living through them.

I sit on my hands, and button my lip seemingly hourly, but I also see "what could have been" constantly. They make mistakes that I'd have never have lived down.

(My very last conversation with my mother involved her reminding me of MINOR things that I'd done wrong, as though they were these huge mountains. My reply was that my son had done much worse, but that I still thought that I was incredibly lucky as a parent... The contrast was jarring. Part of me cringes at standing up for myself. Part feels like saying that probably hurt my mother in unintended ways that were pointless. And part...feels like I (me) needed it.

Like why did you (speaking to my mother) crush me and leave me suicidal over toothpaste, over a single dish, a handful of words, laughing at my own near fall...multiply all of that by dozens a day, hundreds a week, thousands a month, millions a year... Nothing was big. Death by a million cuts. And one or two or dozen, labels me as "overly sensitive", "a problem child", "ADHD", "autistic", "self centered". ...

But to be 13 and free of that...it's only imaginable because I have kids that have done it.

14-19 were my worst. 13 not much better. But I'm living in the past most of the time anyway so I'll keep the 13.

My profile says I am 13, and has since I created it in August I believe. I don't know where that came from, because I don't think it ever asked my age. How did you change it, Arfie? I haven't figured out how to edit that section of the profile information, only the journals and posts. Is there a general DS user manual or instructions because I definitely think that would be useful sometimes. Anyway, I DO want to change that because while I may be one of the younger members here, I don't want to be mistaken for a teenager anymore. I'm 24.

I'm sorry so many of you have had rough childhoods and that 13 was an unpleasant time in your life. I wasn't traumatized until I was 21, so my problems started much later.

I don't think I'd want to go back to being 13 again, but it might be great to go back to when I was 20. I would do things differently so as to prevent the crazy situation I ended up in. Maybe that would have saved me a lot of pain and suffering, who knows? Maybe I was a person that pushed myself so hard before my trauma that I was bound to run into a wall at the speed of a freight train anyway and it was only a matter of time. There are a few things I would do differently that year if I could do it again.

Dance, you change it by going to your profile=edit=basic info. The date calendar on "birthdate" is awkward enough that I typed in my actual birthday.

that is so funny, ha thanks for sharing. Made me laugh

Thanks Arfie!

mine says i'm "0"... =( how did you all get "13"?