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Accepting Forgiveness Humbling

Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd

Today my new significant other's 12 year old son D is going for a walk with me to keep me steady.  That's really nice of her to arrange for me since I was mean to her older son J when he triggered my PTSD by making fun of his mom for bothering to vote this week.  12 years of forbidden elections in Uruguay's dictatorship that tortured me giving me PTSD has made voter apathy a touchy subject for me.  I had no right to kick him out of my house like I did, but I did.  So now I'm welcome in my significant other's mom's house for dinner after walking with her other son D today.  Accepting forgiveness is a humbling thing.  I don't think I'd be as forgiving if the roles were reversed, quite honestly.  Time to eat humble pie.

arfie
arfie
i find humility to be the most liberating concept i have ever welcomed into my life. with humility, with a few extra ingredients, humble pie can be fun and nummy. i don't need to be perfect all the time, nor do i need to be in control of everything around me. just accepting my humble place in the cosmos.

how weird is it that "humility" and "humiliation" share the same word root with such radically different meanings? being humble is not even close to being humiliated.
ANorthernSoul
ANorthernSoul
I feel like my family was run like a dictatorship so I do get angry myself when I read about dictators throughout history. I try to live through the 12 steps. I have my own personal views on politics but I try to leave it out of trying to influence others etc I’d rather eat humble pie than be stubborn and not develop, grow and improve as a person. Pass me a slice Muji
Community LeaderLeo
Leo
Humility and forgiveness are two things that are very difficult. I tend to link humility with "shame". I learned to forgive the hard way ---- by being unforgiven myself by family for being not-the-way-they-want(ed). Why inflict that on others? It may not matter to other people if they're forgiven by me or not (probably not, LOL) but.... Accept the forgiveness as your faith would ask of you, with gratitude, and returning the forgiveness,?
lilmissy7
lilmissy7
(((((Mujica)))))
So proud of you amigo
Gentlest of hugs <3
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
It's great that you're making amends.... It's nice that she's arranged this dinner.... . I hope that you have a lovely time at dinner
And you can all move on from this in a healthy way as Leo wrote.. Let us know how the evening went Muji??..... Big hug.... xo
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
Thanks, y'all. Her son J, the son I insulted, was there at family dinner Sunday. He took the high road and fist bumped me when he showed up. Everybody had dinner, he had some time with his mom, and I left after a decent interval so folks could visit.

He really took the high road, and I'm really grateful it helped me take the high road following him, too.

Today we went downtown shopping for the daughter's school shoes and it was cool with her as well.

Seems these folks forgave me. Wow, it's really nice.
rose07042k
rose07042k
You are the coolest ever Muji. I am so proud of you and it is a honor to call you friend.
rose07042k
rose07042k
It does feel good when someone forgive us the same way when we forgive others.
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
Aw, thank you, Rose. I'm stilling learning lots of life's lessons, so I really appreciate your support for me through them.
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