Sorry, you did not get a healthy response, sounds like it would be easier to keep telling others and be disowned by this awful family. That is not a family who treats you that way. You do not deserve this #metoo

hi baby girl,'

who told you that you were sexually assaulted? If your family knows my question would be who else knows. I think you need to speak to a therapist, plus it wouldn't matter to me what my family did , when I realized I was assaulted I went to the person who did it. But I like you were told by my mother to leave it alone it caused me extreme grief for years. My brother was the one who did it, he apologized in writing I should have kept it or printed it off. it was years ago. Because now he has told everyone I am lying and it's my word against his . My mother knew about it but refused to help and now she died. he got away with it. that has been a very hard thing to handle. I will never forgive him, but I never see my family by my choice. I wish you luck , there is always support here for you. hugs casey

Nobody told me I was sexually assaulted. I know I was. He almost raped me.

It was definitely not your fault. Sometimes a family behaves like a living organism that wants to protect itself at all costs, even if that means sacrificing a member. It is hideous for the person it happens to. Saying it's your fault is a huge lie. Threatening to disown you is a horrible betrayal. Your life and your truth are worth a lot, and don't let them tell you otherwise!

You should absolutely seek professional support. You can call the hotline or text the chatline at RAINN.org. They can also direct you to resources near you. I got free therapy through them, though that's not available everywhere.

I'm so sorry.

Typical response. I got the same. Its mind fucking blowing when they tell you that. That is what i was told too that "that is what you wanted".

Know that that is a bookcase answer of very dysfunctional people. Do not for one min believe it. Start looking elsewhere for support not them.

It's not your fault, no, please rest assured of that. That is a very old line--my mother used it, too, with me when I told her when I was 10 that I'd been molested by a pedophile. Eventually a court proved her wrong and it turned out he'd molested 4 other kids at my school, too.

Thank you all for the support!

I am so sorry that you've been betrayed by those who should be protecting you in this awful way

It is absolutely not your fault ...... It's shameful that your family has behaved in this way

Gentle hug.....xo

I went through something similar too. Instead of being supported & loved I was looked at with disgust.

It's SO not you're fault. If they can't support you & be compassionate I urge you to find it in counseling. Is it the step-brother saying that? Of course he'd say that. He's the one who violated you. If it's him saying it tell everyone who'll listen.

This makes me angry. No its absolutely NOT your fault. And you should tell anyway.

It’s not your fault and you’re not alone in having parents who deny and blame you. I’m so sorry you’ve experienced this. Please tel someone. It will continue happening if you don’t and may even happen to others.

Check out loveisrespect.org and if you think your parents are tracking your phone activity the private browser

What he did was wrong! I hope that you are able to talk with a licensed counselor about what happened. I am so sorry that your family is treating you that way. A counselor would likely be able to help you process all of this and your family's reaction. Some books that might be good resources for you would be No Place to Cry: The Hurt and Healing of Sexual Abuse, On The Threshhold of Hope, Dawn Scott Jones and Lisa Harper also have some additional resources.
I know that for me, talking to someone who had experience counseling was most helpful, but some of the resources were helpful for me also.

It's NOT your fault! At all! They are just trying to silence you and blame you. Are you a child or teen? Either way you can call the childline for your state and report it if you want to. I can't guarantee that they'll do anything because it's often ignored and just say there's not enough evidence. But you have the right to report it. If you call childline a caseworker should investigate it even if they are not charging him with anything because they investigate things separate at child and youth services from the police for safety reasons since they often refuse to press charges. Children and youth agencies are meant to keep you safe even if the DA and cops refuse to do their job. Do you have any adult supports that you could go to for help?

No it's totally not your fault, no one would be raped if there were no rapists

However, my family ditched me when i told them a stranger had attacked me, so in my experience, yes your family won't believe you, will call you names and shun you.
Their reactions will make you feel awful and then you'll think they don't care and that's the end of family life.

However, your family might be healthy and capable of care and support. You know them, you make the call