Hello, Friends! I deeply appreciate the helpful insights that I have received for my difficulties in my relationship with my daughter. Yesterday there was a "break" in the conflict. Vena had posted on Facebook that she had been home sick with a virus for a week, and this after being home sick for a week last month with a respiratory infection. She has an ironic sense of humor, so she said that the woman weho owned the condo she just bought had been a recluse, and she thought her ghost must be haunting her, wanting to keep her around.

Vena has a large following of friends, as she is quite the social diva. There were nearly 50 comments, offering well-wishing and suggestions from purifying her atmosphere with sage to breaking her vegan vows and eating chicken soup. I left her this post: "Sending you loving and healing energy." But then I also texted her: "So sorry that you are sick. No matter what our problems, know that I am here for you. If you need anything, for me to go shopping for you, or to take you to the doctor, I can always get a ride. I love you with all my heart."

She responded warmly that she was fine, that she just had a flu, and that there was no way she was eating "liquified chickens." We shared a few more gentle words back and forth, and I sent her a photo of one of my two black cats. It seemed to be an "ice-breaker."

Moving forward, I do not intend to chase her. I will take the advice of the women who have responded to me here and give her the time and space she needs to work through her hurt and disappointment. For myself, I wish I could learn not to bottle up my painful feeings until they explode in inappropriate ways.

Any suggestions on how to do that?