yes its called social anxiety (i think its what they told me) and not sure bout the other

I tend to think of it as the fear of NOT sleeping...

Insomnia, a symptom, unless from a physical disability is more often related to stress Stress can make you also fear the next day if there are deadlines that you can't meet, or don't want too.. Given your situation, I think that both of those may be part of it.

Without the rest you don't feel like dealing with others either, especially the ones you can't avoid. Making it a rotten cycle. that repeats.

Right now you and wife are dealing with a lot, plus you are discouraged...that is enough to stop normal sleeping habits. If it becomes habit your brain locks on to the no people syndrome, as a comfort zone( agoraphobia). Just a habit run wild. If you see no one, then no one can mess up the day. Not very healthy for you, your wife or the children.

I am hoping you are making headway or at least inquiring for some legal help on the DHS thing. Since that can bring about a lot of stress, no sleep then too tired for anyone else's presence...until a plan is made. The "I don't want to face tomorrow, because it will be the same as today...bad."

As a younger me, I used to say tomorrow doesn't start until I fall asleep, that only made me not sleep for 3-4 days straight, the tomorrow did come. But I was even less able to handle the stress because I was too tired. About the fourth day I am giddy, nothing is serious.9BTW I like that day) Then it's like I can't sleep because I think I won't wake up paranoia
Even if you at least list what you got done, calls made, it may help to set it aside until morning. In the morning list what is the next step (call backs/ set appointments etc) and do them one at a time.. Just so you can see progress before you sleep.

There is a thing I refer to as ostrich syndrome, I will stick my head in the sand and hope it all works out. I can tell you that doesn't work either. You just end up with a mouthful of sand, still in the same place. It is in doing the little steps that has taken me the farthest, even scared as I do them. But better, once even a bit of progress made.

Here's to the little steps Sean.
We are here for support or just to blow out the pipes.

Jewells.

Well thanks everyone. Even before I met my wife I have had these problems. Over 25 yrs. actually. I always have had trouble sleeping. Even after I go to sleep I wake up 2 hours later and can not get back to sleep. The people thing is a little more reason around 2004 maybe 2005. The DHS thing is on hold until January. We were told so we could have a good Christmas. Doubt that. Let them start off ruining the start of a new year. So we are checking into a lawyer but with no savings and a very fixed income we are not sure what to do next.

social anxiety would be the answer to the first question. There is such things as morning anxiety and there a few things that may cause it. Perhaps 1 of these will hit home with you.
1) it could be because you have a stressful job or something like that. something stressful in your life and your brain has made that association with morning and waking up.
2) Anxiety may be so intense that when you wake up and you don't feel it you don't feel right and start a chain reaction of intense anxiety.
3) Fear of being late
4) It is possible to have nightmares and not remember them. This can cause stress and anxiety that seems to be for no apparent reason when you wake up. You maybe having nightmares.
5) If you are a coffee drinker you may be experiencing mild caffeine withdrawal symptoms when you wake up.
I hope you find something that is helpful to you.