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eshaw 03/22/2015

I'm freaking out inside and I feel like I'm having a heart attack. I am 24 hours without a drink now and I have the jitters but I'm doing everything I can to stay sober tonight. My daughter is home and I promised myself I will no longer drink with her here. I'm sorry if this gets long but I am hoping it calms me down to get it out. I am triggered like crazy tonight. I saw blood on the bathroom floor and on a washcloth. My head instantly went to my daughters cutting herself, then what happened to her and so many bad thoughts racing through my mind. After she ate dinner she went into the bathroom for a long time so I stood outside the door listening, my head thinking she was purging. I have nightmares that she is being raped. So many scary stories and I try to tell myself to shut up and calm down and that its all LIES, but my body goes into fear mode and my heart races and I don't know what to do. I guess this is called projection. All these experiences I have I feel like my daughter is experiencing and I'm helpless and I don't know how to save her. Sorry really freaking out tonight. I am not dealing well with my daughter being a teenager and I'm a single mom and feel so out of control. I am out of control. I am out of air too, how do I stop this fear and panic that keeps coming up? Without drinking, without drugs, how do I cope with this anxiety every day? I see a counselor about once a month and I'm on meds. I just feel crazy.

LoveAlice 03/22/2015

Can you maybe try to see the counselor once a week instead of just once a month? I am proud of you for not wanting to drink tonight. I didn't want to drink tonight but I ended up doing it anyways. Have you talked to your daughter about the cutting?

eshaw 03/22/2015

Oh yeah, I forgot to say that- she cut herself while shaving. My head is just so messed up I got a flashback to the day I started cutting and then I started freaking out thinking that's what she was doing. My therapist and I have opposite schedules so its hard but I agree its a good idea.

eshaw 03/22/2015

Thanks LoveAlice!

CrazyCanuk 03/22/2015

I love what you are doing for you and your daughter. It takes a lot of courage!

I believe there are medications that you can take to easy the withdrawal, depression and anxiety. Would you be able to talk with your doctor on Monday and explain how you are feeling and ask for some meds to help with the symptoms?

I am cheering for you!

((hugs))

eshaw 03/22/2015

Thanks CrazyCanuk, maybe it is just withdrawal- the paranoia- thanks for your comment, I'll try to see a doc tomorrow.

heartsadx3 03/22/2015

I hope you make it through tonight how hard everything you are dealing with. Can you find support in a single parent support group? Gentle support you have to help yourself first than you will be better able to help your daughter. Can you have her in counseling also ? Even if you are unsure of any particular issue perhaps knowing she also has support would ease your mind that you have to be and do everything.

My husbands mom is a functional alcoholic I know she loves her kids and grandkids but the alcohol keeps her from being closely involved. It is so sad and I know it is her only way of coping with life honestly I don't blame her at all it's just she pays such a high price for that coping....wishing you better success and knowing you are fighting The good fight I hope you find a better way to deal that allows you to be there for the ones you love for years to come.

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