All the time.For different reasons.
Some is human nature, some is ignorance, some they're not very samrt, some are narcissists or very selfish, some are evil, some live at very basic leve of consciousness, some are ill, some just assholes.....

People never cease to amaze me, that is why i prfer to isolate.Its safer that way.

With that said there are very few but good quiality people out there and sometimes they too are just human and do make poor decisions or mistakes...

Nature of the beast, us humans.

i will never understand other ppl as long as i live but i try not to make myself crazy by attempting to make sense of the non-sensical, finding the sanity in the insanity, cos i do believe that ppl who abuse are mentally ill, cos no-one in their right mind wld deliberately inflict pain on another wld they? i believe if you put a human being under enough stress or pressure or dump a load of grief, add booze or drugs to the mix which lowers inhibitions, anyone is capable of it. as alemap said, it's part of the human condition. just my 2 cents worth.

manda x

You can bet I've wondered that many times. But you know what I finally figured out.....pick your battles. And yes! I know that's not always easy. :0)

Some things are just not worth giving attention to, much less acting upon!! Like Ale said, we are only human after all.

There is a theory that all actions are based on fear or love. Anger, jealousy, aggressiveness, etc are precipitated by fear/insecurity. Altruistic, compassionate, loving behavior is based in Love.

A common belief is that we have to react, based on some primal instinct. An example is a comment like "he made me angry." That isn't so! Our reactions are always based on choice, even if they feel reflexive.

When people are thoughtless, rude, aggressive, I usually remind myself that they simply don't know any better. They think they are doing whatever they have to, in order to gain an equitable advantage in life.

People in that state may think they are awake, but in reality, they are only semi-conscious, because they have so limited self-insight, and they view the world as a projection of their own dysfunctional perception.

Hence the words of Jesus, "Forgive them father, they know not what they do."

No I don't usually care, but will care if they say why they did it or said it. But that last reply hit home, it is a choice to not say anything back or to let that feeling go. My ego gets in my way and if someone pisses me off I react aggressively. I guess it could be jealousy, that they seem so composed with their harsh words so I fly off the wall and attack. Something to think about and work on. But back to your question, no I don't care about the public but when someone in my corner does something weird or off it can consume me for days sometimes months.

We have a need to know why... Well, most people, as I personally don't.

Ask yourself this... Is knowing why automatically going to bring you comfort or a sense of peace? Probably not.

We often want some grand reason as to why people do the things they do, when oftentimes it's just because they could.

All of these posts are great. Thank you. I am learning.

I am still fragile after dealing with someone who would start berating me for doing something different than the way he does it - this after 2+ years of dating! And, it was never important!

After some time, I figure he was just high on alcohol and it gave him a feeling of superiority.

Reply #5: After a few demeaning episodes, I started defending myself and the last battle was because I left my sandals near the stairwell - he called me downstairs to say I was trying to make him fall! It was so bizarre, I got my things together and left - no contact and it is so peaceful!

I'm confused by this whole thread. Obviously everybody who has replied understood the OP. The behavior of others never makes me want to 'hit my head against a wall.' The behavior of others sometimes makes me want to bang THEIR head against a wall. Is it just a difference in personality? I have a narcissistic (read horrible piece of shit) boss I'm forced, because of my need for money, to work for. His profound selfishness feeds into my sex abuse wounds and he makes me anxious all the time. He is really a dreadful man. And yet my internal reaction is the desire to bang his head against a wall, not mine. I don't, BTW. I just put up with it. What's the difference. Am I missing something altogether? Sorry if I am.

I think what the OP meant is it mkaes her frustrated......That is how my sisters make me.

Understanding the WHY of everything does bring me closure a lot.......Understanding that my siblings are a book case of OCDPD with malignant narcissist personalities has bring me closure in regards to them.

Of course i was never able to talk to them or anything but i understand now.I also now they are goners, there's no point in trying to have any contact with those type of people...

The more i understood narcissism the more i realized that...

I guess we do have personality type for me understanding brings closure.