No. his own Karma caught up with him.

dont' feel bad about feeling good - it's natural, I'd be the same!

I'd not be as concerned about the Pastor, but about the other man.

Have you reported this other man? If not, I'm sorry to say, but you are also partly responsible... It's not too late. 4 years isn't that long ago. I'm sure others have been touched, too.

If you did report, what happened to him?

Feelings are not facts, Sean. Facts do not change. Feelings swirl around the facts like an island mist over which I have no control. The heart goes where it goes.

When I condemn and/or repress my "inappropriate" feelings, they tend to fixate and grow into obsessions. When I accept my feelings as they come, they have more room to grow and evolve.

An event sequence (fact) like you have described is big enough to contain all the feelings in the human spectrum. Grow with it.

DeliAnnem yes we reported him. Went all out. Reported the day she told us. Got cops, went to hospital, rape kit. Go almost to trial, and Karma he died of Heart Attack. She was awesome so far no damage stress wise. She actually was praying for him. Long story short I saw him once but mistook him for someone else, because if I truly saw him I would have been arrested for murder that day in the court house. Thanks all for listening and kind words.

My father was a pastor who was so abusive that, as I wrote here this week on another thread, sometimes he wouldn't wait to get home from preaching on Sunday before the beatings started. Sometimes the beatings started in the car.

Once he was so frustrated his sermon didn't get the approval he desired that he grabbed my mother by the hair with one hand while driving with the other, and beat her face into her passenger side window. That behavior was constant until, after 30 years in ministry, he was kicked out of his church.

After lots of therapy, at age 41 I went to seminary and became an ordained pastor. As associate pastor I had the misfortune of living through how my senior pastor divorced his wife of 20 years to marry a parishioner 4 months later. He got away with it, I resigned and went to be a hospital chaplain instead.

I don't think it's bad to be glad when pastors pay the price for their own behavior. I think when it happens we should be glad the institution is policing itself, because it doesn't always do so, as in the second case of my own church when I was associate pastor.

Churches aren't the only place I've seen corruption. I teach college now, and I've seen cases of instructors having affairs with students who are in their classes and getting grades from them, a direct conflict of interest. It's not that these things are a pet peeve, it's that healthy boundaries matter.

I wish it didn't happen, but I don't find any fault with how you feel about this, sean.

O.k. guys and gals reread my original post. I confused some people. The man that molested my daughter was not the Pastor. However the Pastor knew of the mans desires(loosely put) and did not take steps to protect the congregation or put security in place. Sorry my post was so confusing hope that clears it up. Any questions fire away.

So glad it wasn't clergy, but so sorry it was a member of the church nonetheless, and someone the clergy should have prevented from becoming a predator there. Hope your daughter's recovering, as in the end it may make less difference to her. Prayers and hopeful thoughts.