I agree with Jenny, however getting a specialist therapist is vital for PTSD. I have just undergone 9 months of EMDT which is expensive but fantastic for trauma. It is expensive, but compared with the possiblility of spending years going back and forth to a therapist and just offloading and hearing the same old cliche's (c'mon we're not stupid, we've read and heard them all), the expense has been worth it.

I also am in a relationship and what you describe we also am going through that as well. We have agreed to be special friends for a while, and this took a lot of the pressure off me and allowed me to concentrate on overcoming my traumas. It sure beats breaking up, or building resentment, etc. and we are still there for each other. It takes a lot of strength and caring from the partner, but sounds like you have that already.

You will get stronger and as you do you can both re-enter your relationship a bit at a time, as much as you can handle.

For excellent free/or very low cost counselling check out the Salvation Army, they are wonderful, without the conversion tactics other Christian organisations use.

All the best for your journey, and I hope things do improve for you. Baby steps at first. Lots of hugs and prayers.....Betty