By all means you can ask & there may be some who are embarreseed so dont answer but hopefully someone will be able to offer you some suggestions.
The only suggestion I have (my legs cramp as the female) is that curling up together rather than on top etc works better as legs arent squashed.
Hope this helps

Thanks, AusSue!

This is an important topic too, so thanks for this. I think that your idea is brilliant! Takes the stress off the legs entirely. Thanks!

AS THE MAN, I HAVE MY WIFE ALWAYS DO THE PHYSICAL ASPECTS, AND THE CUDDLEING IS ALSO A GREAT IDEA! I CAN NO LONGER USE MY LEGS SO EVERYTHING IS IN HER HANDS. GOOD LUCK, DAVE

This book is on the MS Society's recommended reading list:
http://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Guide-Sex-Disability-Disabilities/dp/1573443042/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1262665247&sr=1-1

Thanks, Dave and Chuck! I think that i need to take on some more responsibility... I might need to hit the gym more. : )

I had no idea that there was a book on this. Amazing. I'll look it up. Thanks, guys!

the only thing that I would say that is taboo is negative attitudes!
We tend to change positions a lot. We go from me on top to standing with me leaning over the bed and use it for support. That tends to work best for his bad back and my weakness. There are lots of interesting positions don't be shy , suggest to ur mate to try a diff position next time around. ;)

Hm! I know that the headboard could be used more for support somehow... I've wondered whether his standing would actually work better than his squatting. Thanks! We'll get creative. : )

And I'm with you on the negative attitudes!!!

yw welcome. Hmmm we have a canopy bed so we have 4 posts and a headboard and footboard....we could get very creative.

I know for my hubby, standing is easier than squatting. Definitely experiment. Also there are some great websites for help just google sexual positions for handicap people. it really works. Just becareful about wording and make sure no kids are around LOL!

take good care
Kim

Thanks, Kim! I forgot that google would even have this kind of thing. Ha! I'm thinking that we need to start using the headboard too.

Great. Thanks! You guys are all wonderful. : ) Ted's not a DS member, and he is absolutely blown away by the caring feedback that we're getting. He has asked me more than once to tell all of you thank you so much!
xox Cecilia