I don't think so. Before I found out I was pregnant, absolutely all of my friends got pregnant and I couldn't help but hate them for it. I tried to be nice and I tried to care but it was so hard. I cried almost every night. I finally stopped caring and then came my good news. Keep your chin up, it will happen!

Naw i was the same way with some people. Everyone handles it different. For me i would be very happy for my friends that are good parents or i know they will be good. But when i know someone who does not need a kid or does not need to be a parent i get super upset. Before i was not like that i HATED when anyone around me got pregnant. I was a mess but after TTC for 7 years an time going by i have changed i dont wanna be sad for my friends anymore they have the right to have a kid just like i do.
Dont feel bad, how you feel is normal. I know how you feel 100%

I know, why does it seem the screw ups can keep having kids, and nicee people who deserve a family can't conceive. I can't tell you how many people I know who are to young, or to screwed up to be having children but they do. I guess what I'm saying is I understand and agree it sucks!!!

Before I left my soon to be ex husband I had a step daughter that I loved (and still do love) like she was my own. He was very abusive (physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.) to me and that is why I left, but I miss her everyday and I wish I had her back or even a child of my own.

I think women like us who have been willing to sacrifice our lives to this cause can only understand. Jealousy is one of those givens. The only difference is we never say it out loud to those we love, it will come back to haunt you. For example- I told my husband in a screaming fit how terrible it was for one of our friends to be pregnant (she's not a good mother, does all kinds of drugs, and is always acting like a victim with pregnancy or without it) and my husband point blank told me in his own special way that I was a horrible person for feeling the way I do and I should be happy for them because babies = happiness.

Inevitably, guilt follows. You can have these same personal thoughts, just dont show them to anyone who may mistake them as hatred.

Here, you have no problem, cause Im right there with ya!

I understand what you were feeling. The sister of one of my classmates in Culinary School was pregnant and I was livid. I was so upset, asking myself, "Why her and not me?" I realized that it was her time and not mine. Two years later I gave birth to a healthy baby girl after trying for almost five years. So, what I'm trying to say is that your time will come. Just be patient.

I cant tell you how good it feels to have someone go through what I am going through! Cause when you feel like the only one in the world with this problem it makes you feel so alone.

We have been trying to get pregnant for 4 years now and out of the blue both my sister and sister in law get pregnante back to back with out even trying! I was of couse happy for them but when they both called to tell me the news I got off the phone and started balling!!! And when I was done I felt so bad for feeling this way, I mean they are my sisters! But you cant help it, when you want something so much and you try so hard for it, I guess you cant help but to feel upset.
But I will tell you somthing. If I hear from one more person that it will happen just give it time, I might go crazy! They just dont know how hard it is, and what a toll it take on you emotionally, and physically!

I don't think you are being selfish. I have that reaction toward many women I find out are pregnant, yet I also don't have that reaction toward a few. One of my friends at work, and my little sister, I was jealous for a little bit, but I got over that really fast. However, both my SILs, my ex-best friend, and various others, I can't get over the jealousy. Especially my one SIL. I am so bitter toward her. She seems to take so much for granted about her daughter. It makes me sick.
But I don't think you are selfish for being jealous. I think that only people who go through what we go through can understand. And while some women will take their children for granted, our struggles will make us appreciate and love our children so much more.

You're not selfish, you're just human! What you're feeling is completely normal. While i was TTC, I found out that one of my best friends was pregnant and the worse part is that she was UNHAPPY about it. I just wanted to choke her and it seriously almost ended our friendship because she knew I wanted it so bad and I somehow blamed her for getting pregnant on accident. Anyway, that's my longwinded way of telling you not to feel down on yourself becuase it's completely normal!

I just found out that my cousin is 3 months pregnate. As much as I love her I am also jealouse of her. She was pregnate once before but she developed a blood clot and lost the baby. I hope everything goes well for her but I am so jealous.

No, Not at all.
You obviously want children of your own or are upset that you are not able to have your own.
It kind of bothers me when people say that someone is selfish for wanting children, I say that the person who calls others selfish is just jealous.. either way, none of those sayings make much sense.
If you are not able to conceive on your own perhaps you could try sergotacy (sp?) or adoption.

I applied to become a foster parent last year and they denied me because they didn't want to "overwhelm" me. I told them that I had raised my step daughter pretty much on my own but they didn't seem to care. I just want a child so bad and I know that being a single parent would be hard, but I know I can handle it. No one will give me a chance though. That is the story of my life.

That's the whole point of being a foster parent tho, having kids come and go.
Helping them with any problem they might have, that's what makes you stronger as well.
Try being persistant as hell, if they deny you give it a few weeks afterwards then apply again & again, each time making the time shorter and shorter.. Eventually you'll get through to them, persistance will tell them that you want a child that badly.
Even if you come off sounding desparate, they'll get it through their thicks heads ;)
Good Luck

I feel the same way about things like that... like my cousin being pregnant and younger then me with an abusive boyfriend... I guess that would make anyone upset though. Im jealous of the fact that that she is pregnant and gets to experience it before me.. Im the same way when it comes to everyone else I know that is pregnant or has a child... I think its normal not selfish... I also think that some women that wouldnt have so much of a problem getting pregnant might feel the same way when they see a pregnant person...

i dont think you are selfish at all,
my Boyfriends sister has just told us she is pregnant and me being jelouse got every upset but i have now stopped talking to her but the reason i have stopped talking to her is she drinks, smokes and does drugs! i hate people that do this and it makes me so angry when people dont take pregnancy seriously when there are people who would do anything to be pregnant so no your not selfish im jelous of all my friends with children