i think the same. I really do. I just push the thoughts aside. I love animals and I have 5 (soon to be 6) dogs so if i dont have kids, I will probably wait until im 30 and if nothing by then we will adopt. In the mean time I love my hubby and my dogs and im trying to do things i cant do after we have kids. So look at is as an opertunity, and I know its hard to but thats what we are doing.
Good luck!

It really is hard. People tell you to stay positive but you cant do that all the time. I try and stay poitive by setting myself goals. for example, i need to loose weight, if i loose weight i have a better chance of conception..that sort of thing. But sometimes i think "what if i loose this weight and i still cant get pregnant?"..Its hard, try bot to dwell on it..and you can always talk to people on here to help you out :-)

My husband's family is very child-oriented. When we first started dating and I had met his family, I talked to him later telling him I may not be able to have children due to issues with my cycles. He flat out told me that if we couldn't have kids together we'd look into foster care or adoption. But, if all else fails, he'd be happy just being with me and having our dogs and my cat to spoil. So whenever I get frustrated and upset thinking it will never happen for us, I just remind myself that there are other options and I haven't crossed that bridge yet. Then I try to find something to do to take my mind off things. You can't not have negative thoughts, but you can deal with them when they happen and know that other people are right there with you!

I think many of us have this thought constantly in the back of our minds. I too have the same issue with my husband because he hates to see me down. My husband just said to me on Friday. We are delt a hand of cards and we have to plan with what we have. Even though the thought of not being able to get pregnant makes you feel like there is nothing worse, if you're bound and determined to have children - you will, whether its through fertility assistance, adoption or naturally. I have a hard time keeping positive especially lately because everyone seems to be pregnant except me, but I try to focus on my career- is there something more you want to do with yours? Go back to school? Move around, etc., or focus a project or hobby I really enjoy that takes me to my happy place. I have learned the best thing I can do to stay positive is to keep busy so I don't have a lot of down time to dwell on what's happening or not happening to me.

Another thing that I know affects this process is stress...try to avoid it at all costs even though it feels impossible. It really does affect fertility.

Good luck to you and you'll get there :) Just keep your chin up - God has a plan for you

girl been there done that i was told i had pcos when i was 21 i was to tears also but i leave it in the lords hand, took years for me to come to terms with it but i am ok I believe God sent me a gift of adoption an that is what I am doing now, I AM 29 NOW and still never give up hope that one day I will have a child, there have been many dr's in life that told me no I will never have a child, and I tell them who r u to tell me no u r not God and as along as I have everything still there it will happen they dont say nothing just keep head high and ur hopes dreams alive never let them tell u other wise it will happen watch and see never give up hope and no stressing over it that makes it worse I have seem to learn. on ur future if the person loves u they understand as for me i have told the person that i am with like day 2 or so i out it right on the table and all have told me thank u and understand my thought behind it is why wait cause they can walk away if i tell them right then and there they walk away ok there in hurt it would hurt more if they walked away later that just me hope this helps never let them tell u no ! :)

Thank you all for your comments - just knowing other people can relate helps.

Manda23 - I have 2 dogs, 2 cats, and a hamster so I know how helpful animals can be

wishinghopingpraying - Funny you mentioned school, I just started back this fall. The next step is balancing staying busy with not adding stress. I am hoping I can handle it all.

I know the feeling! You will handle it you sound like a very strong person and you will find the balance :)

Since you mentioned hobbies - what are the different hobbies that everyone has.

On the days that I am not working way too many hours - I like to crochet, but I am running out of different things to make (you only need so many blankets)

So many of us deal with the exact same issues... those "what if" thoughts, and comparing our selves to others who have kids. Those of us with PCOS have to stay strong together, as we are the only ones who really understand what it is like to deal with this condition.

We all need to do a better job of trying to push those "what if" thoughts out of our heads and try to focus on the good around us right now.

I'm sure I could get you a TON of crochet pattern links from my mom, she loves the stuff and makes anything. :o)

I think you main question is something that we all go through. I don't talk to my husband about it very much for the same reasons you don't talk to yours. We try to be strong for each other but sometimes you don't want to be strong. I've come here so I don't make my husband feel bad that we haven't had any success yet either.

I hope with time it will happen. Right now I am trying to work on being happy for OTHERS when it happens for them, even if really quickly.......

ShannonIvy - You mention being happy for others, That is something I have really struggled with over the past year. A couple months after our wedding we got the news from a friend and some family members about being PG. It is so hard to hear about other people getting the one thing you want and being happy for them without feeling bad for yourself.

You wanted to know about hobbies so I'll tell you some of mine since I really have so many hobbies and tend to focus on a few at a time. lol I crochet, read, write, do various puzzles (crossword, sudoku, etc), play games on the PS3 or PC, and work on different arts and crafts such as beading and digital art. I also try to learn new things, be it craft or something else like French. Actually, I took French in high school but forgot most of it so I've been trying to refamiliarize myself with it again! As for crochet patterns, I do searches online for patterns and browse through crochetpatterncentral.com and ravelry.com. Often you can find free patterns from the yarn company websites like lion brand, patons, bernat, and red heart. The only problem with browsing these type of sites is that I have a list of projects I'd like to do so long I will never be able to do them all! lol But, it does keep me busy and I get so involved in the project I'm working on that I forget about everything else.... at least for awhile! If you're interested in learning something new, you might want to check your local community centre or chamber of commerce to see if there are any events or programs being offered in your area. They'll often have info on the businesses and you can find out more from visiting the websites. :)

Hellos to All.Its nice to know that there are some more people over there who thinks and feels exactly how you do.I was born and brought up in a orthodox conservative Indian family and got married to same kind of family.Yea it was an arranged marriage like most Indian marriages but I was lucky enough to see,talk and meet by husband before marriage.We got married on march,2008.After that we came to US for his project and since then living here.Initially we used contraceptives because we didnt wanted to have kids so soon.My periods were always regular.I was diagnosed with PCOS(pcod in India) when I was 17.I didnot even know the meaning of PCOS then.My doctor in India never even tried to explain me what this is and what can be aftermath.she said it will be fine eventually(I still wonder is that possible).I was so busy with my engineering studies that I totally messed my body.Now we are TTC since one year ,in between I was On and Off BC pills.My periods are normal now.But still somewhere I feel I may never get pregnant.This feeling breaks me down deep Inside.When I think of me without child it creeps me out.Some of you guys suggested to keep your self busy but as an immigrant I cant work and due to other restrictions I cant go out and study.I'm really getting mad sitting at home.No doubt my husband loves me and he has already said its ok if we dont have kids in future too.But seriously guys I want a child anyhow.I dont want a Barren label over me.I'm praying to god and trying to do yoga.Hope we all will be blessed very soon.

I forgot to mention Please ignore my grammar mistakes if any ;) m not too perfect in English.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cp09cn1B9J4&feature=channel
Try doing these exercises.I know few couples who got benefited by this.I'm doing this too. keep you chins up..never give up..never loose trust on yourself.Everything will be fine.Just cross your fingers.Please guys post these kind of things if you come across any.Lets help each other atleast this way.take care.

I want you ladies to know that i am you and you are me..i have been dealing with this for over 20 years.Every emotion you have felt and every thought you have thought I,ve been there...but i'am gonna give u a ray of hope..God does provide..I had my first child at 37 three days before my 38th b-bay...it was awesom. My husband and I used fertility blend for men and women and the third month of taking the vitamins we were pregnant...so dont loose site of becoming a mommy, its still there!!!!!!!!!