Polyamory Community Group
A place to discuss living a polyamorous lifestyle - the joys, the challenges and everything in between. Polyamory (a hybrid word -poly is Greek for many and amor is Latin for love - coined by among others Neopagan poet, author, lecturer, and priestess Morning Glory Zell-Ravenheart) means "The practice, state or ability of having more than one sexual loving relationship at...
Hi guys! I've been in a polyamorous relationship for almost 4 months now. I've also recently separated from my husband who was also practicing polyamory with me. I had slight jealously issues with polyamory before, but it was manageable. Now I get really bad anxiety about my partner leaving me. It doesn't help that they are also going through something at the moment and have not replied to any of my messages since I saw them last Saturday and it's Thursday now. There has been a day or so here or there that they haven't messaged me, but it's never been this long. Do you guys have any ideas on ways that my partner and I can both get what we need if they need space, but I need attention and to know they care?
There have also been instances where I've needed my partner's support, but they've been with their other partner and abruptly stopped messaging me back which I didn't like at all. Is this how things normally are, or is there a different way to go about things like that?
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Now that I am not talking to my whatever best friend, I realized that her life is full of drama. I had grown tired of hearing her stories about her boyfriend many months ago. She basically had been monopolizing conversations for that long too. She pretty much stopped asking me questions about me. I passed her in front of her classroom the other day and didn't even look at her. I am...
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Does anyone here have a comfort item you carry with you when you go out? For example this is my doll, Annie, and I've recently been bringing her with me when I run errrands flor have an appointment. Holding her comforts me. I've bought her clothes, crocheted for her, I recently bought a personalized blanket with her name on it. Just wondering if anyone else has a comfort item.
So assuming that there's nothing preventing the others in your relationship from communicating with you, you're being excluded — which isn't polyamory.
NOTE: The lack of agreement in the polyamory community about what exactly polyamory is, frequently leads to these kinds of problems. It's often conflated with swinging and used as an excuse for cheating when one partner gets caught. The easiest way to solve this problem is for everyone to get on the same page with exactly what type of relationship you are in.
I had to sift through all this for a few months to get it figured out from an objective and historical perspective. So it's not simply my "opinion". Polyamory is not whatever anyone wants it to be so long as it suits them — and it's a definite red flag when you encounter that attitude.