Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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kerryon1 04/02/2007

I got out of an emotionally abusive relationship almost 3 months ago. He did not put me down verbally, but he was controlling, possessive and obsessive. He controlled me through his words so it was considered verbal abuse.

He accused me of cheating (which I never did) and wanted to be w/me every second when I wasn't at work. There is a long story to it which I will not get into right now.

During these 3 months I have only felt happy maybe a couple times. The after effects are staggering to me. I wonder how long it will take to heal? I have been alone and not dating or even trying to find someone.

I work about 60 hrs. per week so at least I am not thinking of it a lot b/c I don't have the time to. I just wonder when I will start feelling good again?

Thank you.

deleted_user 04/02/2007

could you get stuck into something you really like? yoga, religion, painting, dancing-something that requires concentration and focus. it might make you feel you are doing somethingspecial for you. you obviously want to feel better and know there is some way of getting there or you wouldnt be here :)

kerryon1 04/02/2007

Thank you so much for your reply. Yes, I should be scrapbooking... I do that and other little projects w/paper too. I get totally lost in them and it does make me feel better.

Problem is I also have depression anyway so it is sometimes hard for me to get motivated to do it, even though I know it will make me feel better. I usually end up just going to sleep instead.

I will try and push myself though b/c I know you are right and it will make me feel better. :)

deleted_user 04/02/2007

yeh i know what you mean about the just going to sleep-when im having problems i spend lots of time in bed drinking vodka and smoking alot but the more i endulge it the harder it gets to climb out. Ive been really surprised how good exersise has made me feel and if theres anything a need to do its that! Take care

deleted_user 04/04/2007

It will take time. Focusing on yourself and your needs helps. Getting in touch with your feelings and making new friendships is a start. Have you considered joining a support group?

deleted_user 04/04/2007

get out and meet new people...it has done wonders for me! I was verbally and emotionally abused for 7 years and have been separted for abotu 3 months now. It was a rough road, but once I found new friends...it made all the difference in the world

I must admit though...starting over in any friendship/relationship is tough unless you find the right person....because people do not understand why people like us would stay in a relationship that was so horrible!

Best ofluck...Please know I am only an email away

kerryon1 04/16/2007

Well this kind of IS my support group. I talk to a therapist every other week and friends here and there too. :)

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