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I have been on Facebook again and I didn't remove the exes friends as there never was a problem before with them when we would split up. They would usually even say things like " He is just never going to be with one woman, hold your head high and be strong."
I actually thought I got along with his friends and the last time he came to my place, we all talked and sat around the fire, hugs were given and anytime I have visited with them, we were friendly.
Now they won't even talk to me on Facebook? I had removed them as friends but only to protect myself after the last breakup in case he had been bad mouthing me and told them to post anything derogatory on my wall. Now I am wondering if I hurt their feelings or made them mad in doing so?
I wrote to both of them twice, inquiring how they were, making small talk and it shows that they read the letters but no answer. Its not like I blocked them.
Not sure why this is bothering me so badly but it is. :(
Can anyone relate and does anyone have any advice or had this happen?
I actually thought I got along with his friends and the last time he came to my place, we all talked and sat around the fire, hugs were given and anytime I have visited with them, we were friendly.
Now they won't even talk to me on Facebook? I had removed them as friends but only to protect myself after the last breakup in case he had been bad mouthing me and told them to post anything derogatory on my wall. Now I am wondering if I hurt their feelings or made them mad in doing so?
I wrote to both of them twice, inquiring how they were, making small talk and it shows that they read the letters but no answer. Its not like I blocked them.
Not sure why this is bothering me so badly but it is. :(
Can anyone relate and does anyone have any advice or had this happen?
You can't make sense of the nonsensical. Friends don't abandon friends. You know all you need to know. It bothers you because you have a kind heart. They don't. Now that they've shown you who they really are, believe them.
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Ehope
I can see why it is bothering you. It hurts to be rejected like that. Given that you don't know how they interpreted the FB thing, i wouldn't automatically include they are not wanting to be friends with you.
If you think the relationships are worth pursuing you could tell them why you did the FB thing and see if they respond. You are worth having great friends and if they need to be part of your past I have every confidence you will find new ones soon (that you don't have to share!!) :-)
I am guessing that their feelings were hurt, and that they are ignoring you now... I am sure that things will smooth over with time and an explanation (if you feel that they deserve one). People can take one click of a button very personally...
I am sorry you are going through this... I have lost a lot of 'friends' over my relationship with my ex... Some where sick of hearing about it, others who fed on the drama of the relationship disappeared, and still others who couldn't stand I was finally making myself happy.
It was hard to see that I had lost friends due to this relationship... After losing so much... Though most weren't 'friends' at all... And those that were... That I lost through neglect and a deep depression... They were a price I had to pay to get myself well.
Sometimes, I hope that those of my friends I lost through my own neglect, come back. But I am okay if they never do...
It is a painful place to be.
I know it is difficult, but stay off of Facebook for your own sanity. It is worth it!! :)
I am so very sorry you are now having to go through this. I can't say much to help--maybe it did hurt their feelings and they are now ignoring you. I guess you could try and talk to them, if it is important you be friends, but they are acting like children.
I don't do Facebook. I get tired of the way people act, always trying to make themselves seem better than everyone else. Trying to make other people think they are the happiest people in the world, when most of it is all lies.
I hope you are feeling better by now Joanie and that you are having a good weekend.
Please give your horse a carrot for me!!!
I really do miss mine.
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