Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
ok i have a grasp for the most part on my abuse from many many years ago, partly due to the fact that i blanked it from my mind for so long things i do seem so much like second nature. but i am wondering if others are like me to in how that act and if its a way i deal with things from the abuse.
first i was abused by a male cousin since that time, i find it hard to let other guys get close as friends, its a trust thing i actually understand that part of it, no one else seems to, but i do. which is for the most part all that matters, this is why my friends list is mostly females by the way, not that i am trying to get alot of women as friends, i talk to all of them for the most part. anyhow my question does anyone feel themselves drawn to whatver the opposite sex of your abuse, not for any kind of sexual relationshiop but as just a relationship?
second, i have an urge to not shelter myself but leave myself open, not so much to be a victim, but to dare anyone to try to. i nkow this sounds strange, but i welcome someone to try and victimize me, and see where it gets them, in other words is this like my defense mechanism kicking in or because aqll my childhood i was bullied by anyone and everyone and its my way of saying come on try again.?
Third i feel the need to constantly occupy myself with someone, to talk to, to associate with, a minute does not go by i am not chatting online, texting or on my phone, if i dont i feel like i fall into a deep depression. , so does anyone feel like they need constant contact. ? i guess is the best way to describe thi
and lastly has no desire whatsoever to have sex with someone, i mean i have urges like the rest of the world but honestly if its once a month, that i say i need sex its amazing
Posted on 10/03/12, 11:53 pm
first i was abused by a male cousin since that time, i find it hard to let other guys get close as friends, its a trust thing i actually understand that part of it, no one else seems to, but i do. which is for the most part all that matters, this is why my friends list is mostly females by the way, not that i am trying to get alot of women as friends, i talk to all of them for the most part. anyhow my question does anyone feel themselves drawn to whatver the opposite sex of your abuse, not for any kind of sexual relationshiop but as just a relationship?
second, i have an urge to not shelter myself but leave myself open, not so much to be a victim, but to dare anyone to try to. i nkow this sounds strange, but i welcome someone to try and victimize me, and see where it gets them, in other words is this like my defense mechanism kicking in or because aqll my childhood i was bullied by anyone and everyone and its my way of saying come on try again.?
Third i feel the need to constantly occupy myself with someone, to talk to, to associate with, a minute does not go by i am not chatting online, texting or on my phone, if i dont i feel like i fall into a deep depression. , so does anyone feel like they need constant contact. ? i guess is the best way to describe thi
and lastly has no desire whatsoever to have sex with someone, i mean i have urges like the rest of the world but honestly if its once a month, that i say i need sex its amazing
Posted on 10/03/12, 11:53 pm
If you feel like there are still things
that you could work through, (and
it sounds like there are), I'd suggest
you consider participating in
counseling or therapy.
It can help and has helped
many of us move through
recovery to a place where
we feel good, day-to-day.
In regards to needing to
constantly be in contact
with someone, this would
suggest to me that you
might find benefit from
getting into a therapeutic
relationship with a clinician.
I hope you'll maybe thing about
doing this.
Sending hugs and healing thoughts.
Please take good care of yourself.
I think that not remember alot of the abuse i suffered on a sexual nature, helped me to not dwell on it. as for the physical abuse i endured while younger, i feel because of my situation i turned that into a positive, one of the if it doesnt, kill you it makes you stronger kind of things. i made that into i survived and endured all of that, bring it on world type of thing. i have setbacks like i did a few weekes ago over an issue on facebook but i perservere and overcome, i dont know any other way. if i dont then i fall by the way side and i am nto good to anyone and i carry alot of weight on my shoulders at home .with my family.
Sending you SOME big-time hugs: ((HUGS!)) ((HUGS!)) ((HUGS!))