Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
It's been almost 2 months since we've spoken or texted. Some days I still blame myself, some days I am angry at him, some days I cry, and some days I am ok...but Lately, I've just been feeling worse and worse. I went to a wedding out of town bc I thought it would lift my spirits, but I drank too much and it gave me terrible anxiety. And to top it off, right before I left, I got on my friend's Facebook and creeped on my ex, and saw he's hanging out with some girl this weekend. It makes me so sick to my stomach and it's all I can think about; them together and him being sweet and loving to her and me still thinking I screwed everything up and they'll live happily ever after. And I realized at the wedding, that my self-esteem is just totally shot. I've been hating everything about myself. I think I'm no fun, ugly, old, a pain in the ass, selfish, an alcoholic, a mess, unsociable, awkward in public, unsuccessful, a loser. The list goes on and on. I know have all these issues bc of him. I can still hear him in my head, telling me how awful of a person I am and picture him acting as if he despised all the time, and cringing at my touch. Now whenever I go anywhere, I can't possibly imagine people actually liking me and enjoying my company, let alone a man ever finding me attractive ever again.
~healing hugs~
affirmations can be a
good thing.
Getting into therapy
with the right counselor
is ESSENTIAL.
Let me ask you. . . . .
On those days that
were "OK," was there
a common thread
regarding what you
were thinking about
and/or what you were
doing?
Also. . . . on those days
that you were angry at
him. . . . same question.
I'm not advocating endless
anger towards abusers
but given the choice between
being angry at the abuser
and taking the blame for
his (or her) abuse. . . . .
I'd much rather go with
being angry with the
abuser because at
least that's an
APPROPRIATE
reaction. Being
endlessly angry
is not healthy.
But being angry
when someone
has abused us. . .
feeling anger about
what they did that
hurt us. . . . this is
a healthy response
and within a limited
timeframe, it can
provide us with the
energy needed to
move us further on
our journey away
from abuse.
After there's been
adequate processing,
the anger will fade
naturally.
Furthermore, all those
things that your abuser
said to you about yourself. . . .
they were all lies.
They were lies told
to you with the intent
and purpose of
DISABLING you.
This was an injury
perpetrated on you.
Now it's time to do
what it takes to
HEAL that injury.
Please look for a
qualified counselor
and do the work to
reclaim your life.
You deserve it
and are entitled
to it.
Sending you hugs
and wishes for
healing and
better days
ahead.
the toxicity is so fresh you cant think straight
do whatever you have to, just dont go back, he's moved on - he's a jerk, she will see his true colors soon enough
be happy, the hard parts over...xxoo god bless