Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
In my whole life, noone has ever taken care of me. Its always the other way around. I was real sick yesterday, went to the doctor and go a shot. But when he came home, its like I was getting punished for being sick. IDK why its like this. When I was a kid, I went to school sick and when I got home it was always about everyone elses problems. I remember being in kindergarten and my mom locking me in my room all day sick so I wouldnt be in the way. I almost died once because my mom had better things to do than take care of me. I learned to balance a checkbook in grade school because I had to be the grown up. If I didnt take care of things they would end up either not getting done or getting done wrong. Now im with some one just like her... everythings about him. Yesterday, i was chastised for not acting right, talking too much, not talking enough, being in the way, not moving fast enough, getting something wrong, and not giving him space after work. Then after being locked out of the bedroom at one am for being a 'smart ass' he then woke me up in the middle of the night so he could appolagise for the way he acted while simoltaniously making sure i knew that i was still wrong. Funny thing is, I dont know how I was a 'smart ass'. I went over and over it, and dont know what he was taking about. he had another bad day, well so did i!!!! I was so sick I had to get a phenagren shot and still cleaned the house, walked the dog, met him at the door and made him dinner. He could of at least been polite. Just had to vent, thanks for listening. XOXO -BB
This doesn't have to be your life. Being abused can make you sick physically, emotionally & spiritually.
Please contact the nearest women's shelter and ask them to help you make a safe plan to leave. They can help you find a place to live where he cannot find you. It may be 500 miles or 1000 miles, but as long as you don't tell him or anyone who knows him where you are, it will be harder for him to find you.
Please take good care of you and be safe. He sounds like he is escalating and could physically hurt you at any time, if he hasn't already
You don't say if you're married. If you are, then you will need a good attorney. So it will critical for you to document all of the abuse. The women's shelter can refer to you to an attorney and also to a therapist who specializes in recovery from abuse. This is crucial for your well being. Many shelters offer group therapy at no charge.
But first you need to get out. Do NOT tell him you're thinking about it and do NOT tell him (or let him find out) you are in this group. Make sure to clear your cookies & history. And make sure he doesn't have any tracking devices on your phone, tablet, computer and/or car.
Keep reading and posting here.
Please take good care of yourself and be safe.
It's good you found this site and it is great support, and much needed support. Keeping you in my prayers, take good care of yourself
A lifetime of abuse
is only your life
if you choose
for it to be.
Here:
(888) 404-7794
is the number for
your state's
women's resources.
PLEASE call them TODAY.
They will help you
sort this out.
The bottom line is
that you're with
an abuser.
Your profile says
that you're a
young woman.
You were abused
in your childhood
and that set you up
to be abused in your
young adulthood.
As long as you
stay with this abuser
(or any other abuser),
you will never
be "taken care" of.
That can only happen
when you're with an
emotionally/psychologically
functional partner
who will be as supportive
of your needs as you are
of his.
Please call that number
without delay.
Your life is precious
and right now
is the moment
to get it on a
better track.
Please take good care.
Sending you hugs
and healing wishes.