Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I followed through with no contact on both my exes, one was from about 3 years ago and has never left me alone if he was able to get my phone number. I changed it once and due to my naiveity, I gave it to his ex wife to be able to keep in touch with his boys as we had gotten close in the two years that he and I dated.
I just changed it again, so this is the third time now.
So far he has not bothered me other than some spam mail which may have been a virus so I just ignored it.
My question is the last ex, he seems to always want me back after about a month or so with his ex girlfriend. I did not see this pattern in the beginning as I didn't know he left her to be with me, but when he dumped on me to get back with her, as she was willing to "change" for him, I decided there would be no good in keeping in touch with him.
He tried to be friends, but that is a pattern as well.
Anyway, my question is.....how long before they give up?
I changed my number from the one he knew and he is now contacting me via Facebook, which I thought I had him blocked.
I get a message " I think of you often, feel free to call me anytime. "
Out of nowhere?!! Then a friend request? WTH?
As if he never showed his mean side, as if we could just hook up and hang out..Yeah.
So I blocked him best I could, using his email.
Anything else you can reccomend?
I just changed it again, so this is the third time now.
So far he has not bothered me other than some spam mail which may have been a virus so I just ignored it.
My question is the last ex, he seems to always want me back after about a month or so with his ex girlfriend. I did not see this pattern in the beginning as I didn't know he left her to be with me, but when he dumped on me to get back with her, as she was willing to "change" for him, I decided there would be no good in keeping in touch with him.
He tried to be friends, but that is a pattern as well.
Anyway, my question is.....how long before they give up?
I changed my number from the one he knew and he is now contacting me via Facebook, which I thought I had him blocked.
I get a message " I think of you often, feel free to call me anytime. "
Out of nowhere?!! Then a friend request? WTH?
As if he never showed his mean side, as if we could just hook up and hang out..Yeah.
So I blocked him best I could, using his email.
Anything else you can reccomend?
Hmmm it would be intersting to find out how many other exs they attempt to contact......probably just send out a kind of mass mailing, texts or calls and whoever bites gets the grand prize.....:)
Don't they just make you feel sooo special?
These guys are just so insecure and damaged that they just can't stand to lose that energy supply. Yes they will find others, but they will try to hold onto everything they have. This is their only source. They can not manifest their own spiritual food. They need this like zombies need to eat flesh. Honestly. I will never again see it as flattery. I will simply see it for what it is -- pestering, stalking, and soul robbing!
Don't they just make you feel sooo special? "
Learned, that was funny, thanks I needed a smile. :)
I do agree, I think he is just between and sending out messages to see who would bite. His ex makes it so easy, sadly for her, that I think he has a huge sense of entitlement now..from what I have heard from his friends and his own mom, she was cheating with him while he was married years ago.
I almost feel like they have a mutual co dependancy. But it is not mine to own or figure out..I gave it my best shot when I was with him, twice and he can't stay with one woman, much less play nice the whole time.
So all I can do for myself is block, change numbers when it goes bad with an abuser and hope I don't run into them. :(
maryjan, You know I have been getting friend requests repeatedly from an anom. person on another social site, out of another state of course, but maybe a day or two before he contacted me on facebook, so one has to wonder. Of course these fake profiles with no photos are hard to nail down.
May have to just deactivate or cancel my social sites for awhile.
Thanks all for your replies. It just feels like you start to attempt to break/heal after a month or so of quiet and it starts again. ARGH.
I can only hide out so much, I rarely go anywhere now due to all this headscrewing and I don't date.
whenver they're
between supplies.
Sometimes, it's years
down the road.
Their assumption is that
if they act like their abuse
never happened, maybe
you'll believe you imagined it.
You didn't imagine it.
Pull out your Index Cards!!!!!!!!!!!
And keep them blocked
from your life in every
way you can.
I realize that sounds like a cop out, but when it seems like everyone you know around you is in a relationship and has someone and your so alone..I have to wonder if I did all I could in my relationships and if the problem was me all along?