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Came upon this in my yahoo mail from a long time ago..it gave me strength of mind when I was involved in a relationship before with a Narcissist. Wanted to Post it as sometimes the crazy making that is inflicted upon you, well, it just helps to read these types of things. Wishing you all a blessed and peaceful day full of strength, joy and light....
How to Worship Me- What Narcissists Don't want you to know
1.I love me and only me.
2.My kids are there to glorify me and get me attention
3.My wife or husband is there to make me look good, if she doesn't I'll find someone who will.
4.If you don't worship me, I'll find someone else that will.
5.When I get tired of you, I'll leave to find someone else interesting
6.After I have left you for someone else, I'll come back just to mess you up.
7.Mind games are my favorite and I always win.
8.There's no room in my life for God or religion. I am a God.
9.I have the Midas Touch and don't you forget it.
If things go wrong, it's YOUR fault.
10.I expect you to take care of all my needs but I won't take care of yours.
11.I think I'm great, therefore I am.
12.Since I am such a fine specimen of a Man or Woman, I am entitled to do whatever I want, get whatever I want.
13.You should be thankful that I am with you.
14.I get pissed when you fail to recognize how wonderful I am.
15.If you make me mad enough to hit you, you deserve it.
16.I will make everyone around you think you are the crazy one, so don't defy me.
17.When I think I may be leaving you, I'll start telling lies so that I save face later on.
18.No matter what I do to you nobody will believe you.
19.By the time I am done with you, you won't even recognize yourself.
20.Even if you'd walk on water, I would tell you that you need to take swimming lessons.
( Although it is titled what Narcissicists don't want you to know, I feel it can be for any abuser..anytime you feel YOU may be the one who is at fault, please pull this up and reread or print it up and put it somewhere you can read..)
How to Worship Me- What Narcissists Don't want you to know
1.I love me and only me.
2.My kids are there to glorify me and get me attention
3.My wife or husband is there to make me look good, if she doesn't I'll find someone who will.
4.If you don't worship me, I'll find someone else that will.
5.When I get tired of you, I'll leave to find someone else interesting
6.After I have left you for someone else, I'll come back just to mess you up.
7.Mind games are my favorite and I always win.
8.There's no room in my life for God or religion. I am a God.
9.I have the Midas Touch and don't you forget it.
If things go wrong, it's YOUR fault.
10.I expect you to take care of all my needs but I won't take care of yours.
11.I think I'm great, therefore I am.
12.Since I am such a fine specimen of a Man or Woman, I am entitled to do whatever I want, get whatever I want.
13.You should be thankful that I am with you.
14.I get pissed when you fail to recognize how wonderful I am.
15.If you make me mad enough to hit you, you deserve it.
16.I will make everyone around you think you are the crazy one, so don't defy me.
17.When I think I may be leaving you, I'll start telling lies so that I save face later on.
18.No matter what I do to you nobody will believe you.
19.By the time I am done with you, you won't even recognize yourself.
20.Even if you'd walk on water, I would tell you that you need to take swimming lessons.
( Although it is titled what Narcissicists don't want you to know, I feel it can be for any abuser..anytime you feel YOU may be the one who is at fault, please pull this up and reread or print it up and put it somewhere you can read..)
Thank you for posting this it really helps to open my eyes even wider!!!
Most have also had various addictions and of course everyone but themselves is to blame for thier drinking/drug problems as well.
Now, I have learned to distance myself or at least try to, from people that cannot seem to control thier alcohol or other issues. I have, in my experience found that they will often have other addictions, gambling, speeding-roadrage, anger issues, sexual addictions, etc.
Just my experiences...I have not found one who has "changed" yet.
My ex would often do things to others that she would feel extremely angry if anyone did to her. I couln't believe that she did not make the connection.
Regarding drug problems - my ex would justify her usage as not being as bad as someone else's, so hers was okay and actually healthy.
You are excatly right - it all just an attittude of blaming anyone but themselves - never their fault.
"There's no room in my life for God or religion. I am a God. "
Narcs are such fools :)
Thanks for posting.
i believe most narcs go back to their exes or try to anyway its easier to do that than start out with a new woman, they don't like to expend energy on other people.
If ever I raised any issues around his behaviour he would tell me I was over reacting, or worse, imagined it!
He always wanted me to 'look good' and if we were ever going anywhere he would always tell me, "Dress up nice, I know these people we are meeting tonight"
He has a therapy appt saturday and he is nice now so when we get there i won't open my mouth and tell the doctor the truth.
I said it, so it is true.