Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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AndreaBEE 10/08/2013

I got this list yesterday from my therapist. I hope it helps:

Emotional Dependence
Fear
Financial Dependence (Me)
Hope (that they will change)
Housing
Immigration Status
Isolation
Physical Illness (I was always sick) They suck us dry
Self Esteem and Guilt
Traditional Values System

We went over this yesterday in therapy. It was an interesting eye opener.

deleted_user 10/08/2013

The safest thing on that list is hope I think. Bit only because it is a testament of the niceness of the people that are abused by their partners.

deleted_user 10/08/2013

*sadest not safest :(

deleted_user 10/08/2013

I agree that hope is the thin that still has me tangled in this mess.... I keep hoping and if not for me, now him... Hope that he can change and have a better life... Hope that he will be well and happy, Hope that he will not cry like he is for the first time....Hope that there is something better to come and fear that I will miss the best...

Carm416 10/08/2013

Having a family history of people who are divorced, growing up in a single parent household.

page 10/09/2013

Also care giving for a parent with Alzheimer's. You don't want to confuse them by changing their surroundings. Especially when they don't realize abuse is happening - they cannot understand.

ooooo 10/09/2013

Traumatic bonding!! http://www.abuseandrelationships.org/Content/Survivors/trauma_bonding.html

ooooo 10/09/2013

Ah! Just read this on the National Network to End Domestic Violence site.

"Batterers are very good at making victims think that the abuse is their fault. Victims often believe that if they caused the violence, they can also stop it."

Baxjanson 10/09/2013

That one stood out to me, too, ooooo! The rest of the site was a litle heavily weighted towards women for my taste, but there was still a lot of good information there.

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