Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
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I am feeling really low since yesterday and didn't post about it as I thought the feeling will go away.
He has removed the blog he had dedicated to me and had said that he will keep writing till old age in the hope that when we are really old I might want to contact him.
He has put pictures of different woman in his arms on his Orkut saying Friends in need are friends indeed and is going to Singapore,Bankok and is living his life to the fullest..
It's not that I wanted to go back or I expected him to be in pain all his life or I wanted his life to become hell...
What really pains is that he was never in pain..He never felt the way I did for him.
It is heart breaking to see that your pain gives so much happiness to someone whom you loved so truly and devoted 6 yrs of your life completely to him.
It's not that I am not moving ahead..I haven't contacted him for the last 3 months..and I will never contact him...It's just that sometimes the old memories just keep on flooding my mind.The good, the bad and the UGLY (which was 95%)
Does anyone know why am I feeling like this?
Why do I care that he has moved on so easily when I am dead sure I will never go back?
Why do I even care if he never loved me or he might even be cheating on me while I was in a relation with me?
Why does all this bother me now when it's OVER for GOOD?
Please help me..I am going insane thinking all this again and again...
He has removed the blog he had dedicated to me and had said that he will keep writing till old age in the hope that when we are really old I might want to contact him.
He has put pictures of different woman in his arms on his Orkut saying Friends in need are friends indeed and is going to Singapore,Bankok and is living his life to the fullest..
It's not that I wanted to go back or I expected him to be in pain all his life or I wanted his life to become hell...
What really pains is that he was never in pain..He never felt the way I did for him.
It is heart breaking to see that your pain gives so much happiness to someone whom you loved so truly and devoted 6 yrs of your life completely to him.
It's not that I am not moving ahead..I haven't contacted him for the last 3 months..and I will never contact him...It's just that sometimes the old memories just keep on flooding my mind.The good, the bad and the UGLY (which was 95%)
Does anyone know why am I feeling like this?
Why do I care that he has moved on so easily when I am dead sure I will never go back?
Why do I even care if he never loved me or he might even be cheating on me while I was in a relation with me?
Why does all this bother me now when it's OVER for GOOD?
Please help me..I am going insane thinking all this again and again...
What you are feeling is called detachment. You are finally detaching from him.
Why do you care, hell girl you spent six years dedicated and devoted to this piece of scum. It is your nature to care.
Why does it bother you for him to move on so quickly - because you loved him and you wanted him to see it, stand up for you. But he can't. He moves on to the next drug. They need their fix.
We lived in a mirage, something that was never there and something that never existed.
In our journeys, our goal is to love and be loved. THIS SIMPLY CANNOT HAPPEN WITH THESE GUYS!! Unfortunantely, we loved and now we have to let go.
Isha, he is like a drug addict onthe streets, he is trapped in a world he cannot comprehend. He will use what ever is available to get his next fix. He walks around with the needle in his arm waiting for his next euphoria to explode his brain.
You are no longer his supply. You have cut him off. It hurts. But we move on. Just picture him as a drug addict, because to me, this is exactly what they are. The only difference is the only drug here is abuse.
Hugs n luv to you honey. You are doing awesome and we are rooting for you.
What does it tell you that he's putting up pictures of different women 'in his arms'? It's all about LOOK AT ME, see how great I must be? I have a 'collection' of women. That's all they are...OBJECTS. He doesn't care about them, he only cares about one person, HIMSELF. He moves on easily because he HAS NOT CONSCIENCE. It's called "devalue and discard"...a term that describes what abusers do to us.
You care because you are a real, loving, caring person who is capable of real love, unlike him. (this is why it still bothers you...
I have accepted any 'good' feelings toward my ex as something that may just nag me in the back of my mind and I may have to live with for a while....because I am a caring person).
You are trying to figure out an ABnormal-brained person with your normal brain. In many ways it's not possible, it's just accepting they are totally effed up!
And believe me dear, he IS NOT HAPPY, or living this great life. A person like this is ALWAYS miserable and empty inside, despite what he SAYS, or what he puts out there to display....with the intention of not only looking like some cool guy (cough), but to hurt YOU and others. He is sick. You are asking how to get rid of this?
ACCEPTANCE that he is what he is. Followed by BLOCKING HIM from your life.
I know it hurts, but it's really the only way. You're on the fence there....take that leap to the other side. It's a painful leap of faith....but I can tell you after several months of blocking mine, it gets a lot better.
Hugs to you!
Thanx Calm for the motivation...It helped me..
I am feeling a lot better after reading what you both wrote..
Thanx a tonnmy ANGELS!!
Anyways this is all I could have expected from him..Asking me that it seems to him that I have changed my number.YES I HAVE..The best decision ever after the NO CONTACT decision..
I just want PEACE in my life..My life is nearing to what I had imagined..I am independent and life is simple and no HIGHS and LOWS...
It feels good...
I wana thank everyone in DS for the support which helped me reaching where I am today...
keeping you "in reserve" for a time when it suits him to "reconcile",
( i,e...use you again) with you. Cut him off, once and for all, and allow yourself to greive and heal ONCE, instead of over and over again.
Good for you isha...block the emails too. You have to STARVE THE VAMPIRE...then you get to start healing.