Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Umm hi.. I, honestly, don't know exactly what I'm doing or looking for here. I just know that I want to start healing. If not for me, then for my daughter. I was with my ex husband for 5 years. I asked for a divorce the last 3 years of our marriage. He told me no. He told me a lot of things. I didn't even realize what he was doing. I thought I was crazy. I legitimately thought that I was a crazy person. I finally left, just packed my car with as much as I could take, took my girl, and left. And then it got worse. The stalking. The harassing. The absolute invasion of privacy. There were so many nights I thought maybe it would just be better with him. But then I'd look at my girl and know I couldn't do that. He threatened to take her from me. He would make me leave work if I "wanted to see her again". I guess I got fed up and I got a personal protection order. Emotionally, it got worse before it got better. So, now, I'm trying to move forward and I just don't know how. I'm still not sure what parts of the last five years were real, and which parts he just made me believe. It's absolutely terrifying that someone can get into your head like that. I feel as if I don't even know who I am..
been through so
much pain.
First, good for you
for getting you and
your daughter away.
A couple things, now.
Either partner in a marriage
can initiate a divorce. If cost
is what's stopping you, look
for legal aid or a lawyer who'll
help you "pro bono." It helps
that you already got an order
of protection.
Finally, both you and your
daughter would benefit
from seeing a therapist.
Your local women's center
will be able to help you
both with finding legal
aid and also counseling.
There might even be
counselors at the
women's center.
You did the right thing
by getting out. Now
comes the work of
healing and recovery.
You can do it and
your daughter really
needs support to
move through her
life being functional
and feeling happy.
Time alone doesn't
heal. Time plus
other things can
deliver healing.
Sending you hugs
and wishes for a
year ahead that
holds healing
and happiness.
To sort out
what was what,
trying doing my
Clarifying Index Card
exercise. I'll bump it.
I developed it for just
this kind of circumstance.
It has helped me and
many others.