Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I have to have contact with my ex....soon to be ex....whatever he is...because of the kids, ages 15 and 21. Last week we got a letter from the courts rejecting our divorce and i have to resubmit some paperwork and explain somethings on it. Not a problem. He has the paperwork and needs to resign them. I shot him an email this today and had other stuff I needed to talk to him about. See the email below. Sigh. Here is the emails..........
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sure...i dont want to slow you down...your getting really close to acheiving your goal! I forgive you though....
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From: Jo
To:
Sent: Friday, March 05, 2010 10:33 AM
Subject: Easter....
Hello! Just wanted to put this out there for you to think about. I havent talked to Megan about this but would you like to take her to Church on Easter? April 4th. She goes with me all the time and I wanted to make sure you had an opportunity to spend that holiday with her if you wanted. Of course, she wont turn you down if you ask. Shoot she can go with you every week if you wanted. She will get taught at either Church. She wants to see Rachel and gang too. Just let me know.
Megan should be up and ready for you. She looks good with her new haircut. Does she have to cover tattoos? We went shopping at the PB@Js last night. Got her 2 pairs of jeans (she could use 1 more) and 5 shirts for $51. She is in a size 9 now and was offended when I suggested starting at size 8. LOL!! I kept telling her to not ever think she will stay skinny forever!! You and I talked about splitting that cost.
Do you think you could have those papers resigned for me tonight?
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sure...i dont want to slow you down...your getting really close to acheiving your goal! I forgive you though....
---- Original Message -----
From: Jo
To:
Sent: Friday, March 05, 2010 10:33 AM
Subject: Easter....
Hello! Just wanted to put this out there for you to think about. I havent talked to Megan about this but would you like to take her to Church on Easter? April 4th. She goes with me all the time and I wanted to make sure you had an opportunity to spend that holiday with her if you wanted. Of course, she wont turn you down if you ask. Shoot she can go with you every week if you wanted. She will get taught at either Church. She wants to see Rachel and gang too. Just let me know.
Megan should be up and ready for you. She looks good with her new haircut. Does she have to cover tattoos? We went shopping at the PB@Js last night. Got her 2 pairs of jeans (she could use 1 more) and 5 shirts for $51. She is in a size 9 now and was offended when I suggested starting at size 8. LOL!! I kept telling her to not ever think she will stay skinny forever!! You and I talked about splitting that cost.
Do you think you could have those papers resigned for me tonight?
It depends on what you feel you need to do jojo to get his cooperation. I like how you corner him, so to speak in the nicest way possible, I did have to giggle at that. You're showing you are cooperating as much as you can, and putting in writing that you had some financial agreements. Smart!!
Notice he says nothing about your Q's about the kids. Great stuff to keep for court.
I can't imagine how difficult it must be co-parenting with an abuser, I have a huge respect for those who have to go through this. Where I live divorce is no-fault, you can claim irreconciliable differences, there is not denial..so that was interesting to hear that this does happen.
I'll pray for a speedy resolution, and as much as can possibly happen in your favor. Keep us posted when you can (hugs!)
And agree also that it's great to have put in writing the financial agreements etc.
Other than that, all I can say is I'm sorry he's being such a jerk, and best wishes to you in dealing with it for as long as you have to.