Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Well i think tonight will be make or break time for me.
Our youngest daughter came home from work last night to find me in a bit of a very depressed state. She went into her dad who was in another room and asked had he seen the way i was......obviously he hast because he was watching the telly instead......lol.
She told him she cant cope anymore with whats going on in the house and the fact that im so miserable.
He carried on watching the telly...................lol.......
She told him that i need medical care and he looked up and said ' tell her then ' ...hhmm.....no empathy...
He also told our daughter to go and tell me to go and see the doctor.....talk about passing messages on !!
Our daughter then said , dad i can see you and mum are not happy what are you going to do about it because i cant cope anymore......
apparantley he didnt even acknowledged that she had said anything or was talking to him?
That to me speaks volumes.
Our daughter is 21 and ive told her that this is not her problem but its affecting her so thats just not fair is it?
Anyway shes told me that shes going to sit us both down tonight and sort it for good and if i go i go but she cant cope anymore with it.
I dont think it will do any good , in fact im preparing myself for a 'rage fest' ...lol..
going aff past talks or lack of them.....he will either stop the whole things straight away or he will going into one of his rages.....ive told our daughter to be careful and he might get in her face.....she just said that she will do it back!!........
i must say im pretty worried right now........x
I know what everybody
Our youngest daughter came home from work last night to find me in a bit of a very depressed state. She went into her dad who was in another room and asked had he seen the way i was......obviously he hast because he was watching the telly instead......lol.
She told him she cant cope anymore with whats going on in the house and the fact that im so miserable.
He carried on watching the telly...................lol.......
She told him that i need medical care and he looked up and said ' tell her then ' ...hhmm.....no empathy...
He also told our daughter to go and tell me to go and see the doctor.....talk about passing messages on !!
Our daughter then said , dad i can see you and mum are not happy what are you going to do about it because i cant cope anymore......
apparantley he didnt even acknowledged that she had said anything or was talking to him?
That to me speaks volumes.
Our daughter is 21 and ive told her that this is not her problem but its affecting her so thats just not fair is it?
Anyway shes told me that shes going to sit us both down tonight and sort it for good and if i go i go but she cant cope anymore with it.
I dont think it will do any good , in fact im preparing myself for a 'rage fest' ...lol..
going aff past talks or lack of them.....he will either stop the whole things straight away or he will going into one of his rages.....ive told our daughter to be careful and he might get in her face.....she just said that she will do it back!!........
i must say im pretty worried right now........x
I know what everybody
One last chance. Thats all he gets. I can imagine this is not a new issue, you have been crying out for help for a while. He can't, doesn't, won't hear you. Or your daughter. Get help, get out if you need to, for your daughters sake, save yourself and make some peace and harmony in your life. Your daughter will understand! And she will be there for both of you, although the fact that she needs to be speaks volumes as to how bad things have become for you both.
Make the decisions you need to to save your sanity, your husband needs to do the same. If you can do it together, more power to you! But if he can't see there is a problem, or wants to live in denial, that is his choice, you need to choose what is best for you.
I wish you the best, and I truly hope you can both move forward together, but if you can't, move forward alone, you deserve it, and so does your daughter!
I hope that you can resolve something with/after this "talk" tonight. I hope he doesn't turn violent. I hope your daughter is ok. I hope you are ok.
You deserve better.