Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
My abusive ex and i no longer talk but im still going through some pain and i cant get my mind off the abuse and stuff he put me through. Then when i really think about it I think that he is just psyco and how could i have loved a man like that? I remember one conversation we had and he was getting into it with this guy and he made the statement " I dont care what i have to do ill shoot up his mama, his children everybody" I was like what sane person would say something like that. Then one time I didnt answer my phone and he told me that he felt like I was cheating and we were not together! He made the statement that if he ever found me cheating that i would be on the First 48 murdered and strangled. I was like what? AGAIN I SAY WE WERE NOT TOGETHER! In his crazy mind we were. I cant put my finger on it but he has some MAJOR issues. He brags about having a gun collection and doesnt have any remorse for what he does. One time he threatned me when i wouldnt come see him and he told me if i didnt come that he would shoot up my grandmothers house and my house! He was like i will kill you! He was dead serious. He has made the statement too many times that he wants to kill himself and everyone around him! He is out of my life and a restraining order hasd been filed and he dosent know where i live anymore but right now im just going through alot. THANKS FOR THE SUPPORT.
leonii
You said you cant put your finger on it?I can-he's nuts.Get away from hima nd cut off all ties.This guy is one messed up man.Get a support system of a few family members or good friends and let them know what is going on,what he's said and your where abouts at all times.File a police report.he wont exactly know.Just let them know what he has said and how he has threatened you.Ask them to keep an eye on the house when they are patroling.call some local womans centers and talk to the people that run them.Maybe if need be,get a restraining order.This sounds bad-I dont want to frighten you,but I'm sure you already have come to this conclusion in your mind.People are nuts.They have no respect for themselves or life in general.If he has threatened with guns,It is on his mind.That's scary.Oh-Ok I re read and see you have a restarinig order filed.Great!!!Hopefully that will keep his crazy ass at bay.But still be careful.Always do have a friend cover your back.Dont let your guard down.Sometimes just when you think they are gone and out of your life they are lurking somewhere close by watching.Just because he is goofy also doesnt mean you have to live your life as a prisoner.Be happy and live but be diligent and careful.keep safe.Sending you light,love,joy ,protection and peace of mind.XXXXXXX hugs :o)
blessed19
Thank you leonii! I dealt with his BS for 5 years and finally im done! Dont know how I lasted this LOnnnnNGG!!! Now im in therapy and just trying to understand how is it i was in love with a man like that. Its pretty scary! I did this not only for myself but more IMPORTANTLY for my son! I couldnt have my son being raised by him I REFUSE! So with GOD on my side I know I will get through this! Its just really hard right now. Im just trying to get back to the old me! Coming in DS has really helped me also.
deleted_user
I understand what you are going through. I am in an emotionally abusive relationship with an older man. He says the oddest things in order to stir up controversy. He says mean an ugly things and then says he was just joking. He has the maturity of a preschool male. I would like to chat with you sometime if that's ok.
blessed19
@Nola we can chat anytime! Mine says crazy things but he doesent say " just joking" he says it and means it with a straight face which is scary and i just came to the realiztion that i will either end up dead or in jail from killing him! So when i thought about that I was like its time to let go and go our separate ways! This has really made me not trust men!
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